I was recently introduced to a female cousin of a female friend (I don't know if you need to know both of those, but it probably does change the situation), and she's pretty cool. Plus I recieved many IOI's such as kino and playing with my hair. They both live together at a college about an hour away, but visit occasionally. I have talked to her twice, but I didn't get a number or an email address. I guess the question I'm trying to get down to is...is it alright to ask her cousin(my friend) for her email or should I just wait until the next time I see her in person?
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No problem unless you have reason to believe she's a ****blocker, or has some reason to warn her cousin against you.
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How close are you with her. Ask her on whatever type of media you usually communicate. Phone, email, msn. I would personally call her, because then I could deal with any objections she might haveEiljwa said:and how would I go about asking, say on msn or something?
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Tell her you really connected with her cousin and you'd love to hang out with her again. She might not give you her contact, for privacy issues, but you can tell her to ask the cousin if you can call her, or msn her or whatever.
So basically you will ask the friend to be a mediator between you and the cousin. Then she cant really say no because you arent asking her for her cousins contact. I f she says that she wont do it, you know she's got issues. If she says sure, and acts happy about it then you're probably in there. If she says okay, but she sounds kind of skeptical, then she might not actually ask, and you have to find that out.
Another way to go about it is to talk to her, mention the cousin and innocently try to find out where she works or hangs out, so that you can "accidentally" run into her. Then you bypass the friend all together.
So basically you will ask the friend to be a mediator between you and the cousin. Then she cant really say no because you arent asking her for her cousins contact. I f she says that she wont do it, you know she's got issues. If she says sure, and acts happy about it then you're probably in there. If she says okay, but she sounds kind of skeptical, then she might not actually ask, and you have to find that out.
Another way to go about it is to talk to her, mention the cousin and innocently try to find out where she works or hangs out, so that you can "accidentally" run into her. Then you bypass the friend all together.