I've known this girl for years and we used to be good friends. At one point though she started acting cold towards me and we stopped talking completely for months (and I should add that she suddenly started acting cold). But even when we started talking again she was still cold to me (ie giving abrupt answers, ignoring me at times). Anyway recently I questioned her about it, saying that I felt she's been that way for a while (and before she wasn't at all, we were close in fact). She immediately goes on the defensive, saying it's not so, and that I shouldn't accuse her of things. I eventually drop it figuring she must have had a bad day or something. What the hell is up with her behaviour, it makes no sense? Any insight would be appreciated.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Female friend acting crazy, insight would be appreciated
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