I've known this girl for years and we used to be good friends. At one point though she started acting cold towards me and we stopped talking completely for months (and I should add that she suddenly started acting cold). But even when we started talking again she was still cold to me (ie giving abrupt answers, ignoring me at times). Anyway recently I questioned her about it, saying that I felt she's been that way for a while (and before she wasn't at all, we were close in fact). She immediately goes on the defensive, saying it's not so, and that I shouldn't accuse her of things. I eventually drop it figuring she must have had a bad day or something. What the hell is up with her behaviour, it makes no sense? Any insight would be appreciated.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Female friend acting crazy, insight would be appreciated
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