"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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EmotionalGeek

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So we all know what is man's agenda. What they really want and what are the traits of men they are searching for. Last time I asked this question to woman she said she knows this really good and she is very concrete. When I drilled further I got answers like "He has to has it". So I asked what "it" is and she just answered that she knows when she sees. Drilling further just proved my point that she don't know what she wants.

Also man say that woman plays them but they have to play man for something e.g. man plays for sex. So I wonder if there is anything we know about female agenda.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Mike32ct

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So we all know what is man's agenda. What they really want and what are the traits of men they are searching for. Last time I asked this question to woman she said she knows this really good and she is very concrete. When I drilled further I got answers like "He has to has it". So I asked what "it" is and she just answered that she knows when she sees. Drilling further just proved my point that she don't know what she wants.

Also man say that woman plays them but they have to play man for something e.g. man plays for sex. So I wonder if there is anything we know about female agenda.
I believe that women know exactly what they want and don't want. However, they might not want to be brutally honest and admit it, and/or they might not be the best at trying to explain it.
 

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Women need 1) organisms/great sex 2) to be taken care of financially, etc. 3) validation. If they can get it all from the same man, great. If not, they will seek to get these needs met from multiple men, even if committed to one. You can almost call this "clockwork".
 

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Women need 1) organisms/great sex 2) to be taken care of financially, etc. 3) validation. If they can get it all from the same man, great. If not, they will seek to get these needs met from multiple men, even if committed to one. You can almost call this "clockwork".
I have seen this in most all of my relationships. When I didn't provide those 3 things, she started behaving badly in some form.

Women just aren't worth it to me. They don't offer me enough in return. When they figure out you have money, and aren't willing to spend it on them they become resentful.
 

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The problem with their "agenda" is that you get punished for mistakes men made with her in the past. So if she rode the CC, separated/divorced, have guys up there on her HST, she'll have elevated expectations on you not to f it up. Even more so if she is swimming in options.

The way to circumvent all of that is as it's often discussed on here... live in your frame. Don't give into her agenda. Give into your agenda. You lead, she follows.

Live your life the way you want to live it. If she doesn't respect and act accordingly like a good soldier as @guru1000 would say, you're always free to drop the plate.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I have seen this in most all of my relationships. When I didn't provide those 3 things, she started behaving badly in some form.

Women just aren't worth it to me. They don't offer me enough in return. When they figure out you have money, and aren't willing to spend it on them they become resentful.
Have you come across women who are more giving and generous? I know the numbers are shrinking every year, but they still exist.
 

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Have you come across women who are more giving and generous? I know the numbers are shrinking every year, but they still exist.
I have one that almost begs to do stuff for me. I've mentioned her before on the forums. Drives a long way to see me, cooks all the meals we eat - dishes after, does my laundry, rubs my back, makes the bed, etc. I think the "giving" attribute stems a lot from her working ever since she was little. Always on the farm, helping with her parents business, straight A's from grade school to finishing masters. Just always worked hard on everything. My room mate is dating a girl almost 100% identical. They are a rare find but man are they great.
 

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I have one that almost begs to do stuff for me. I've mentioned her before on the forums. Drives a long way to see me, cooks all the meals we eat - dishes after, does my laundry, rubs my back, makes the bed, etc. I think the "giving" attribute stems a lot from her working ever since she was little. Always on the farm, helping with her parents business, straight A's from grade school to finishing masters. Just always worked hard on everything. My room mate is dating a girl almost 100% identical. They are a rare find but man are they great.
And I tell people they can and will help you, and they will learn to please their man too. They care.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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They want what they can't have....they want Mr. IMPOSSIBLE.
 
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