Fellow DJ's, problem that some of us have been given.

[ghostface KILLAH]

I'm tryin to really get on this gurl who I've been workin on this month. Ill bring her over my house and get her shirt off kissing her yadayada but then when it comes to the pants shes like no ur not even my boyfriend. I'm like, you don't have a boyfriend so who cares. I'm positive that she wants me cuz shes always jokin bout how sexy i am. then shes saying I'm a player and that kind of crap, the last girl i was getting on also said this. But they were both still very attracted to me cuz of my DJing.


I'm tryin to find a way to overcome this. I'm thinking just ask her to be my GF? I really don't want it to be this way cuz I don't like having girlfriends (just gettin ass lol) but if I have to be her bf to get on her then so be it. what are your opinions fellas? thanks

 

[Eternal]

How old are you?

 

[ghostface KILLAH]

I'm 17.

 

[AlexTheGreat]

Get her drunk.
























Nah just kidding lol, hmmmm. Well, let's examine the situation a little : you have a reputation of being a player. She knows that. Still, she's into you and lets you take off her shirt. Well, the way I see it, she's interested, but is afraid that the reputation you have is for a reason : she doesn't wanna get burned by a one-night-stand. So, asking her out would be an option, but even then, what tells her that you aren't doing it just for the poon ? (which you are lol) What I'm getting at is, even if you do ask her out, it's not sure you attain your goal.

 

[MarcP]

Ok have you got rapport with her? If you haven't try that because it should make her trust you more then. Just say something like "I understand what you mean blablabla"(just explain what shes feeling and all that) then just have conversations with her and hope that she'll want to move it further and then just take it from there. You probably won't want to become her boyfriend though because if girls don't have to use sex to get/keep you then they probably won't. Hope you get it sorted out.

By the way dont worry about being labeled a player by girls because it creates more attraction, but it makes them more cautious about sleeping with you etc. You can erase the cautiousness with rapport(comfort, trust, connection).

 

[Sterling the Runner]

Forget her. tell her that she is missing out on great sex and then ignore her.

 

[xomel]

I have the same problem except not the player part. Same exact thing, its all good up until you try to get her pants off. Im not going out with this girl either. The only difference in our situations is having a player reputation.

I also want to have a relationship too, but a relationship that includes, real attraction and having fun together. I can always have fun with her but I'm going to be angry if I become exclusive and she doesnt even give me ass.

Help us.

 

[xomel]

any DJs out there who have some experience in this type of situation?

 

[MarcP]

Rapport is key for getting relationships/laid. Just focus on getting to know her when you feel shes attracted enough and throw in a bit of attraction.