"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Alright, I've been going out with this girl for about a month now, and she's really into me.

I wasn't sure but the other day she started saying (over the phone, ldr) how much she misses me, how much she likes me, and wants to be with me. How she thought she just wanted to be friends at first, but after the first night we hung out she couldn't stop thinking about me.

How do I respond to this?

I like her but I know I shouldn't "express my un-dying love for her"
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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To put her off and ignore her would obviously be going backwards.

I say just act like it's a normal thing that girls miss you and like you. Act like the prize and she'll enjoy you more. But don't overdo it
 
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*sighs* Why do you think how she's acting is a bad thing? As far as I know, to get a woman into that state of where she misses you and think's about you all the time is an OBJECTIVE.

I just hear my ego telling me: "Mission Accomplished" whenever a girl admited something similar to me. Then I knew I had her in the bag, and our future was mine to decide. If you like this girl, now's an ok time to hop into a relationship. If you're not sure... continue acting normal and see what happens. If you've decided this girls' not right, move on.

:)

Edit: Ok, only now read closely and saw you've only been dating for a month. A bit early for a relationship, soz. Though... trust your own inscinct on this one. My advice: tell her you wanna see how things go or somesuch. Continue dating...

Make some thing up! :D
 
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Originally posted by Keeper
*sighs* Why do you think how she's acting is a bad thing? As far as I know, to get a woman into that state of where she misses you and think's about you all the time is an OBJECTIVE.

I just hear my ego telling me: "Mission Accomplished" whenever a girl admited something similar to me. Then I knew I had her in the bag, and our future was mine to decide. If you like this girl, now's an ok time to hop into a relationship. If you're not sure... continue acting normal and see what happens. If you've decided this girls' not right, move on.

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No no, I think it's a great thing, and I want a relationship with her. I just don't want to say too much too soon. I basically told her I felt the same way...
 
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Well, if you told her that, then don't whimp out now. :) Go for the relationship if that's what you want... use your own judgement: you know the DJ guidelines; don't kiss her ass, don't suck up, be a man! There's no real thing you can and cannot say. All girls are different, and YOU should have enough skill to discern them. We can't do it for you. The Bible only teaches you how.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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