"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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DJArlington

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i'm a fairly decisive person (not in terms of women but everything else) I am willing to take a risk and make a change. I don't like to moan and groan and make everyone around me miserable, that includes you guys on this site.

I have had the same thought in mind for a few years - there is a certain city I want to move to and build a life. Ever since I was 22 years old I've had the same goals in mind. Find a job in this city (which for me would be a piece of cake), buy a piece of property, etc. I already have a great job, property, friends, etc. business opportunities, girls to date, where I currently live but I feel like there is something missing. In the new city I already have a great set of friends and some family, so adjusting to it woulnd't be a big deal.

May be it's because I'm 30 yrs old and everything is becoming mundane here. I've been living in my city for 18 years now (minus college). I just feel like I need a change and all of my dreams have always been centered around living in the new city... Do you see my dilemma? I already have a great set up here.

Anyone ever feel this way ?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Warrior74

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I've wanted to move to LA for as long as I could remember.....but it's not going to happen. I should have done it when I was younger and didn't have resposiblilities (fatherhood). If you have no children, go for what you want man. You can always come back. If I found a great (not good but great) job in LA or NYC I would be there in a heartbeat and fly my kid out every summer.
 

DJArlington

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Got no kids; only liability I have is a carpayment and mortgage; but I can always rent my place out (may take a few months in this screwed up economy).
 

Warrior74

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Go for it man. You only live once. Make a plan and see it through. Make a fallback plan just in case. It's your life.
 
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