"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Feeling so bloody insecure.

t0mCaT

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1 1/2 year relationship. Everything was great... then I changed.

I'm not sure where the fvck these new emotions came from - but I'm suspecting they went latent a long time ago and emerged again now because my GF started a different College.

So yeah, it's a bit of an LDR, though we still live within 30 mins of one another.

The only problem is that during my waking hours I'm thinking she's constantly being hit on. I trust her... I just don't trust those guys in her College.

Now, she's a gorgeous girl - that's a fact. I've been told that I have a 10/10 woman. Very nice ego boosts there. But now that she's spending most of her time away... I can't shake this feeling that some guy better than I is gonna come along. Before her I've gotten with girls who had boyfriends - that didn't stop me in the slightest.

I mean... 9/10 of you DJ-bastids wouldn't care if the girl had a bf. If you had what it took you'd go for her anyway.

So how do you deal with this crap? Either someone pimp slap some sense into me.... or just show me the friggin' light! How do you get rid of these feelings?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I will give you the truth. LDR with a hot girl is like leaving a porno magazine in the men restroom, it won't last long, everything will get nasty and the whole thing will start to fall apart.
 

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the more you think that kind of thing...the more it will happen and the more you will push her away...

stay confident...and be an optimist..
 

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You're just a f*cking half hour apart. Get over it; you can still see her plenty. You don't have to be in all the same classes, for goodness' sakes.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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30 minutes is considered long distance to you? haha
I used to commute 1 hour and 30 minutes to work EVERY DAY. 30 minutes is nothing.

And on the issue of gf stealing. There are two kinds of relationships. One is the commited relationship. The other is the relationship where the girl is settling for what has come her way so far. In the former, you're an as$hole for trying to break it up and will cause lots of drama. In the latter, it is fair game.
 

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maybe by now you should be feeling quite better... that happened to me beginning of the year... nd my woman had to knock some sense into my head.. but basically she kept on re-assuring me that she loves me more than anything nd would never leave or cheat.... so i finally calmed down.... ehem.. 30min is not long distance...... a few hours is long distance.... nd thats how far mine is.... yeah shes in varsity 10/10... but a lil older than the AFCs, which most of them are so im pretty safe....
 
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