"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Feeling so bloody insecure.

t0mCaT

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1 1/2 year relationship. Everything was great... then I changed.

I'm not sure where the fvck these new emotions came from - but I'm suspecting they went latent a long time ago and emerged again now because my GF started a different College.

So yeah, it's a bit of an LDR, though we still live within 30 mins of one another.

The only problem is that during my waking hours I'm thinking she's constantly being hit on. I trust her... I just don't trust those guys in her College.

Now, she's a gorgeous girl - that's a fact. I've been told that I have a 10/10 woman. Very nice ego boosts there. But now that she's spending most of her time away... I can't shake this feeling that some guy better than I is gonna come along. Before her I've gotten with girls who had boyfriends - that didn't stop me in the slightest.

I mean... 9/10 of you DJ-bastids wouldn't care if the girl had a bf. If you had what it took you'd go for her anyway.

So how do you deal with this crap? Either someone pimp slap some sense into me.... or just show me the friggin' light! How do you get rid of these feelings?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I will give you the truth. LDR with a hot girl is like leaving a porno magazine in the men restroom, it won't last long, everything will get nasty and the whole thing will start to fall apart.
 

gherald

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the more you think that kind of thing...the more it will happen and the more you will push her away...

stay confident...and be an optimist..
 

Obsidian

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You're just a f*cking half hour apart. Get over it; you can still see her plenty. You don't have to be in all the same classes, for goodness' sakes.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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TillTheEndOfTime

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30 minutes is considered long distance to you? haha
I used to commute 1 hour and 30 minutes to work EVERY DAY. 30 minutes is nothing.

And on the issue of gf stealing. There are two kinds of relationships. One is the commited relationship. The other is the relationship where the girl is settling for what has come her way so far. In the former, you're an as$hole for trying to break it up and will cause lots of drama. In the latter, it is fair game.
 

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maybe by now you should be feeling quite better... that happened to me beginning of the year... nd my woman had to knock some sense into my head.. but basically she kept on re-assuring me that she loves me more than anything nd would never leave or cheat.... so i finally calmed down.... ehem.. 30min is not long distance...... a few hours is long distance.... nd thats how far mine is.... yeah shes in varsity 10/10... but a lil older than the AFCs, which most of them are so im pretty safe....
 
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