"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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feeling incomplete...

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lately i've been feeling incomplete... and due i think its cuz of this feeling i cant commit to a relationship.. its gotten to the point that i dont feel im good enough to be in a relationship even though girls want to be with me... i just feel like i have nothing to really offer them..

now its not like im a hobo.. i make very good money, i finished school and have a pretty good education..

i dunno.. just this feeling persists.. im not depressed.. i can go on about my day just fine.. anybody else have anything similar?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You got some kinda problem with hobos? huh?

girls want to be with me... i just feel like i have nothing to really offer them.

The answer lies within the question. Fun is all that matters. If you are fun, they want to be with you. A happy life is a series of connected fun moments. If a girl wants to be with you, then obviously you do it for her. You make her happy and that is what you offer.
 
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I think everyone feels this way sometimes.

Answer this, what do you think a female should offer you, in order for you to want to be with her? This should give you maybe some insight into what YOU have to offer or need to work on.
 
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*sigh* i guess i only want what i cant have and that i think is the root of the problem.. always striving for something... as soon as i get it i lose interest... :/
 
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*sigh* i guess i only want what i cant have and that i think is the root of the problem.. always striving for something... as soon as i get it i lose interest... :/
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Ever consider goals which are more esoteric? Things which are more intrinsic and personal rather than accumulations?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Once you start feeling like this, imagine how much worse it would be if you're married to a domineering b!tch and tied down with 2 kids and trapped in a prison of white picket fences... I think it was Janis Joplin that observed "freedom ain't worth nothin' but it's free."

But you can't be bitter and cynical about love, you have to be a true optimist at heart. If you're doing the best you can with your life, then let the chips fall where they may.
 
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Rex: im 21... still young, lots to learn, thanks for all the replies people... i really do appreciate them..

francisco: i have hobbies and such and things that give me personal satisfaction (inner self things) that dont rely on external outcomes. its just a feeling i get from time to time... where nothing seems to matter....

its as if im scared to take the leap... and its been like this for a while now... i think i might be having commitment issues :crazy:

i dont know why :(
 
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