"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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lately i've been feeling incomplete... and due i think its cuz of this feeling i cant commit to a relationship.. its gotten to the point that i dont feel im good enough to be in a relationship even though girls want to be with me... i just feel like i have nothing to really offer them..

now its not like im a hobo.. i make very good money, i finished school and have a pretty good education..

i dunno.. just this feeling persists.. im not depressed.. i can go on about my day just fine.. anybody else have anything similar?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You got some kinda problem with hobos? huh?

girls want to be with me... i just feel like i have nothing to really offer them.

The answer lies within the question. Fun is all that matters. If you are fun, they want to be with you. A happy life is a series of connected fun moments. If a girl wants to be with you, then obviously you do it for her. You make her happy and that is what you offer.
 
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I think everyone feels this way sometimes.

Answer this, what do you think a female should offer you, in order for you to want to be with her? This should give you maybe some insight into what YOU have to offer or need to work on.
 
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*sigh* i guess i only want what i cant have and that i think is the root of the problem.. always striving for something... as soon as i get it i lose interest... :/
 
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sav said:
*sigh* i guess i only want what i cant have and that i think is the root of the problem.. always striving for something... as soon as i get it i lose interest... :/
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Ever consider goals which are more esoteric? Things which are more intrinsic and personal rather than accumulations?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Once you start feeling like this, imagine how much worse it would be if you're married to a domineering b!tch and tied down with 2 kids and trapped in a prison of white picket fences... I think it was Janis Joplin that observed "freedom ain't worth nothin' but it's free."

But you can't be bitter and cynical about love, you have to be a true optimist at heart. If you're doing the best you can with your life, then let the chips fall where they may.
 
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Rex: im 21... still young, lots to learn, thanks for all the replies people... i really do appreciate them..

francisco: i have hobbies and such and things that give me personal satisfaction (inner self things) that dont rely on external outcomes. its just a feeling i get from time to time... where nothing seems to matter....

its as if im scared to take the leap... and its been like this for a while now... i think i might be having commitment issues :crazy:

i dont know why :(
 
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