"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

Feeling drained and tired after work

fillme

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 13, 2003
Messages
62
Reaction score
0
Age
49
Location
Australia
I feel so tired and drained everyday after work that I usually don't have any energy left to do anything else. It usually start around Tuesdays and my productivity level hits zero on Fridays and so does my temper.

I have realized hitting the gym is never going to happen for me. I rather try to eat some fruits, one vitamin, and drink water after I come home. I am considering walking 30 mins a day, some basic yoga/ stretching and meditation every afternoon.

Is there anything else I could do that would give me a bit more energy throughout the evening so I feel refreshed and energetic?

Thanks for any suggestion.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

Zaraza

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Oct 6, 2005
Messages
282
Reaction score
2
Location
Oregon, USA
how many hours of sleep do you get? I ussually average 6 to 7, and i feel drained at times. I go to the gym (not as much as i would like to), when i work out i feel a lot better. For my body to not feel drained i need minimum 7.5 to 8 hours of sleep.

I Dont drink energy drinks, and hope you dont either, after drinking those you become more drained.
 

I-tallionStallion

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 5, 2007
Messages
1,175
Reaction score
4
Location
New Jersey
Green tea pills and drink helped me a lot. Coupled with a good diet helpled me.
 

fillme

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 13, 2003
Messages
62
Reaction score
0
Age
49
Location
Australia
Zaraza said:
how many hours of sleep do you get? I ussually average 6 to 7, and i feel drained at times. I go to the gym (not as much as i would like to), when i work out i feel a lot better. For my body to not feel drained i need minimum 7.5 to 8 hours of sleep.

I Dont drink energy drinks, and hope you dont either, after drinking those you become more drained.
I usually hit the bed at 10:00pm and fall asleep at around 11:00 and wake up again 7:00/7:30 in the morning - so there's 7-8 hours of sleep. Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night because either I feel hungry & want to eat something or I want to go to toilet. I usually take a nap for about 2 hours over the weekend (right after lunch).
 

speed dawg

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 9, 2006
Messages
4,735
Reaction score
1,223
Location
The Dirty South
Try getting up an hour early at 6:00. Sounds simple, yes. Maybe even doing a little bit of exercising/stretching/running/weightlifting/etc. Works for me. Makes me feel like I'm getting ahead of the day. Life is all about your frame of mind.

Being healthy and in shape doesn't hurt either.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

insidious

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 16, 2005
Messages
611
Reaction score
17
Ha, welcome to the real world 8-5 rat race dude!
Is your job giving you extra stress, do you dread going to work?
Maybe it's time for a change there...

Otherwise, just get your ass up early and exercise. You'd be surprised
how quickly your body and mind will adapt. The notion of working
out in the morning used to give me chills...now I can't imagine any other way.
 

Nelford

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 22, 2006
Messages
141
Reaction score
4
Location
Choclate City Washington DC
fillme said:
I feel so tired and drained everyday after work that I usually don't have any energy left to do anything else. It usually start around Tuesdays and my productivity level hits zero on Fridays and so does my temper.

I have realized hitting the gym is never going to happen for me. I rather try to eat some fruits, one vitamin, and drink water after I come home. I am considering walking 30 mins a day, some basic yoga/ stretching and meditation every afternoon.

Is there anything else I could do that would give me a bit more energy throughout the evening so I feel refreshed and energetic?

Thanks for any suggestion.
It could be your diet and sleep. I work 3 jobs and lift 4 days a week and cardio 3 days. If my diet starts slipping and I don't get 7-8 hours of sleep I will feel drained all day long. The funny thing is I get a boast of energy when it's time to hit the weights.
 
Top