"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Feeling down? FORCE A SMILE.

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I have a lot of depression issues due to chemical stuff that's messed up within my body. On some days for no reason I feel crappy, sad, just overall not happy. After a few minutes of my depressed state I realize that I hate it and refuse to be depressed.

I decided to force a smile for an extened period of time and after that, I felt I had more energy and I litterly felt happy.

Its almost like the muscles you use in your face to smile remind your body what being happy is like and it forces you to cheer up.

Give it a try, it couldnt hurt
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Smiling does help improve a sour mood. It releases chemicals in your brain synonymous with happy.(Endorphins I think.)
 

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hahaha... i actually do this... this is soo weird. I keep seeing stuff here that i actually do.
 

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I do this as well. I have also started to use a trigger song. When I feel in a fantastic mood, I listen to a song. Then, when I am down I listen to the same song. It gets me right back into happy mode!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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CrunchyNut said:
I do this as well. I have also started to use a trigger song. When I feel in a fantastic mood, I listen to a song. Then, when I am down I listen to the same song. It gets me right back into happy mode!


I havent really thought about the trigger song idea. I was doing that naturally I guess. Whenever Iwas feeling down I'd put on a song that I like (probably was happy when I listened to it the first time) and it makes me feel more happy.

Good stuff
 

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Embrace said:
I have a lot of depression issues due to chemical stuff that's messed up within my body. On some days for no reason I feel crappy, sad, just overall not happy. After a few minutes of my depressed state I realize that I hate it and refuse to be depressed.

I decided to force a smile for an extened period of time and after that, I felt I had more energy and I litterly felt happy.

Its almost like the muscles you use in your face to smile remind your body what being happy is like and it forces you to cheer up.

Give it a try, it couldnt hurt

This is because every time you smile in sends endorphins (Chemical or whatever associated with happiness) to your brain. This in turn will cheer you up. Just force one big smile. Works wonders.
 
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