Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Feeling deeply insecure about my salary.

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I make a respectable amount of money compared to others at age 22, I own an apartment, my own car and I'm even a firefighter (extra responsibility, work at a huge factory with high fire risk).

I could use this to try impress women, but I never have and never will. Partly because I hate bragging and partly because I want people to like ME and not my possessions or occupations.

If I run out of money and know I won't get any for a week (happening a lot after I bought the apartment), I'm still happy and don't give a sh!t about it. It's waste of time to worry about things I can't change, I make the best out of the situation.

Don't be driven to make more just to satisfy women, it will only limit you with women until you reach your goal, and this could be never. Don't give a sh!t about it, don't let women dictate your salary.

If they start complaining about your salary, walk away.

If they start asking early about it, don't give them a clear answer.
 

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Espi said:
But EVENTUALLY...in my opinion, every woman's gonna want to KNOW how much bank you got. EVERY woman wants to feel like she can be supported.
I agree that eventually she will know, just not too soon.

Espi said:
MY OPINION: the more money you have, the more women you get. And those women you get will typically have bigger breasts and thinner bodies
True, but it's useless if you don't want the type of women who cares about your money.
 

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here is the deal you have to take a step back and look at he picture

i'm not saying you don't need to make more money. i'm not saying you need to accecpt where you are or any **** like that.


dude, i think the key here over all is that the guy that you described she left you for is basically repulsive. your ex wife is literally a *****.

my point being, do you honestly think if you had 100k in the bank she would not have left you for the guy who has 200k? or if you had 150k and she ran up on a dude clocking 500k a year she would not have seduced him?

there is no amount of money that you could have made that would have cut the gold digger switch off in this woman
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm supposed to meet a girl with my girlfriend for a threesome tonight. Neither of them care how much money I have. And I fvcked the psycho last night, who btw isn't preggo any more. I'm going for three women in 24 hours, a new personal best. And I'm poorer right now that I have been in a long time.
 

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Grewd said:
I make a respectable amount of money compared to others at age 22, I own an apartment, my own car and I'm even a firefighter (extra responsibility, work at a huge factory with high fire risk).

I could use this to try impress women, but I never have and never will. Partly because I hate bragging and partly because I want people to like ME and not my possessions or occupations.

If I run out of money and know I won't get any for a week (happening a lot after I bought the apartment), I'm still happy and don't give a sh!t about it. It's waste of time to worry about things I can't change, I make the best out of the situation.

Don't be driven to make more just to satisfy women, it will only limit you with women until you reach your goal, and this could be never. Don't give a sh!t about it, don't let women dictate your salary.

If they start complaining about your salary, walk away.

If they start asking early about it, don't give them a clear answer.
^^^Great mentality to have Grewd, wish I had that at 22.^^^


Maybe I'm just lucky but I'm pretty sure the last 3 chicks I've dated all made more $$ than I did. 2 out of the 3 owned their own houses. The 28yr was pretty much a sugar momma, that sh*t just feels weird after awhile. She would easily spend 3-4x more than I would in a month.

I'll admit it I'm frugal as h*ll but I don't care, it's me and it works!

TRUE story no doubt woman want to know you can support them but now a days I swear it seems like they are the ones bragging and showing that they don't need to be. BUT yes eventually that sh*t will come up.
 

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A chick will not keep you for the long run if you do not meet her monetary standards, but it does not prevent you from laying them. Social status will ultimately help you get laid, and if you know how to pull th emotional strings in a woman, which is what they succumb to, you will get laid. And that is all one really needs. I can land a job making 40-50k a year as a single man and live as if om making 100k if im not spending it on a wife and kids.
 
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