Feeling Bummed Out...

[Young OG]

So, I used to get plenty girls in my late teens and early twenties, then I was in a 8 year ltr with my kids mom who is bpd. We broke up 2 years ago and haven't banged in 1 year. Since we broke up, l got some numbers here and there. But nothing ever pans out. I found out I was showing to much desperation after finding this site, so I cut that out. I'm only 5'5" and used to be really skinny. I joined the gym earlier this year and have become a lot bigger. I even have abs. I bought a bunch of nice clothes and started wearing my hair movie star style. I have noticed women actually checking me out. I haven't really been going out gaming, cause I have been working on myself.

So I go into a bunch of stores daily for my job. Last week I'm in a store and walk past this hb8 that works there, she smiles at me. Then on tue, she sees me and says hi and starts a big convo with me. She was showing extremely high IL. So before I leave I tell her to give me her number and she quickly gives it me. I don't call her and I run into her today. IL doesn't seem as high. I ask her what she's doing tomorrow night. She says she has no plans. I tell her, good cause I'm taking you out. Then she says I don't think that is a good idea cause cause of our jobs. I say okay that's cool, say bye and walk away without looking butt hurt. I'm guessing she maybe has a man or likes someone else now. I think if she was really interested it wouldnt matter if we kind of work together. We don't even work for the same company.

I know it's her loss, but it's hard not being bummed out. I haven't been with a woman for a while and I'm getting really sick of never getting to a 1st date. Whenever I do get numbers, they always seem to have a boyfriend when I call them or one even flat out hung up on me when I called.

I'm not really sure what kind of answers or comments I'm looking for here. I just really needed to vent. Maybe I need to get more aggressive and start trying to get more numbers instead of doing it when it's convenient for me. But it's hard to find time when I work and have my kid during the week.

 

[Yewki]

Don't take women that seriously. A woman doesn't define who you are. If you are unhappy without a woman, you're going to end up unhappy with one.

It's also a numbers game and can take time. Talk to every interesting girl you find, not necessarily to hook up but to improve yourself by becoming better at connecting with people.

 

[loco]

Hired guns talk to others because it's their job,or boredom in some of those less visited stores(add to the fact that they have to be nice) so don't worry too much,if you were to the the same on a neural setting and got the same result I'd be more worried.You say that you got bigger and bought better clothes,that is dandy but did you brush up on your pickup as well?

 

[Young OG]

Don't take women that seriously. A woman doesn't define who you are. If you are unhappy without a woman, you're going to end up unhappy with one.

It's also a numbers game and can take time. Talk to every interesting girl you find, not necessarily to hook up but to improve yourself by becoming better at connecting with people.

I'm in a better state of mind then I was when I made the thread. I dont even want a ltr or get married anymore. I would like to spin plates. I guess I should put more effort into getting numbers, since it is a numbers game.

 

[Young OG]

did you brush up on your pickup as well?

I should because I need more practice. I need to get out there more.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Well, now is the perfect time to let the number sit and then try what I did here:

http://sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=228648

 

[PeasantPlayer]

yup

 

[Young OG]

Next time I go into this store for work, what should I say and do when I see her? Is a simple hi okay? I'm done trying to game her, but I don't want to look butt hurt about what happened. What if she tries to have a convo with me again?

 

[amazingswayze]

In my opinion, it's hard to date strangers. She showed high IL but there is much less rapport involved compared to dating in your social circle.

What I'm saying is that you don't want numbers, you want quality numbers. you want to date girls that stay interested.

Brush up on your game, and experiment with new strategies. With enough work, you will be right back in the game.

Good luck man!

 

[Young OG]

I'm not sure why I created this thread. I'm now back in the right state of mind. I actually have adopted a huge ego within the last 4 days. I got my hair trimmed, noticed my muscles and abs are looking better then I thought, and more women are looking at me. I think in my head, wow I look good, I'm really hot. Lol.

Here's a little update on that chick I was complaining about. I'm not pursuing her anymore, but I think it's funny how she acts now. The first time I saw her after she rejected me, she was all smiley and talkative like before, almost acting like nothing happened. I kept it short with her but didn't act butt hurt or ignore her. Now she doesn't smile anymore and acts different. I think that she expected me to keep trying to pursue her and now that she saw that I'm not giving her any attention, she's mad. I only say hi how are you, if we cross paths. I used to go talk to her and give her attention. This is funny to me and feels great. The old me would have kept trying to pursue her and kept giving her attention.

 

[BrainDamage92]

BPD does that to you. But if she isnt clinically diagnosed dont talk ****. Yewki is 100 % correct. God I have tasted this sour poison, having a woman wont make you happy if youre not happy by yourself this is the most important truth.

You become happy by achieving goals. Love's goal is reproduction. But nowadays everything is twisted couse humans are smarter than its healthy for them. Think about it.