"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Feeling anxious seeing a girl

coolness89

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There's some girl that I have a crush on lol. I don't even know her, never talked to her etc. THe problem is everytime i see her, for a couple of seconds i have this anxious feeling, and then it lowers, but it still is more than my resting state. I talk to tons of girls (friends, i don't want to sleep with them etc) and I dont get this problem. How do you guys deal with it?

It seems i am infatuated with this girl. I have listed pros and cons about this girl and really there are no pros for me to have this infatuated feeling, just a bunch of cons (shes ok looking etc etc)

Help me out guys. Why cant i just feel normal? How do I get rid of this infatuation? It seems everytime i have a crush on someone I have this problem

Heck theres no point in me even talking to her. With all my college stress, I dont have the time to pursue a relationship and will just turn out to be "lets just be friends"
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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zekko

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Sorry I don't have any good advice for you. But this is a perfect example of why you should always let a girl fall in love (er, I mean get infatuated) with you before you develop feelings for her. If the guy develops feelings first, it messes him up and he doesn't function properly.
 

Unbridled_Phoenix

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Change your mindset. Eliminate your outcome attachment by realizing that you get women when you dont try to sell yourself to them.
 

Nygard

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Imagine said girl in the restroom, taking a dump the size of Canada.Foul smell coming out her ass, imagine her face as she lets that turd-sized train fall flat on the toilet.

Ew...yeah. case closed.
 

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It is so hard to not fall in love w/ a girl first when u r only going for that girl n nobody else. I tried to resist but I still gave in in several weeks.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Poonani Maker

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Imagine yourself jumping out of an airplane, the FEELING that would rush over you, and the thoughts about, "Naw, I'm not going through with this, nuh ah," but you finally just say Fvck it, and Jump. Well, having survived that experience, you decide to drive up a narrow dirt rocky mountain road, with little margin of error driving. Annnnd, you make it, no problem, and back down. You DO enough of this risky sh!t, and fvck, a woman you see who you don't want to fvck it up with, you just pretend, you're riding that risky edge, and just Do it. Just talk (with nervousness, but I've done it before, I'll do it again rolling through your mind).
 
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