"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Feeling anxious seeing a girl

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There's some girl that I have a crush on lol. I don't even know her, never talked to her etc. THe problem is everytime i see her, for a couple of seconds i have this anxious feeling, and then it lowers, but it still is more than my resting state. I talk to tons of girls (friends, i don't want to sleep with them etc) and I dont get this problem. How do you guys deal with it?

It seems i am infatuated with this girl. I have listed pros and cons about this girl and really there are no pros for me to have this infatuated feeling, just a bunch of cons (shes ok looking etc etc)

Help me out guys. Why cant i just feel normal? How do I get rid of this infatuation? It seems everytime i have a crush on someone I have this problem

Heck theres no point in me even talking to her. With all my college stress, I dont have the time to pursue a relationship and will just turn out to be "lets just be friends"
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sorry I don't have any good advice for you. But this is a perfect example of why you should always let a girl fall in love (er, I mean get infatuated) with you before you develop feelings for her. If the guy develops feelings first, it messes him up and he doesn't function properly.
 
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Change your mindset. Eliminate your outcome attachment by realizing that you get women when you dont try to sell yourself to them.
 
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Imagine said girl in the restroom, taking a dump the size of Canada.Foul smell coming out her ass, imagine her face as she lets that turd-sized train fall flat on the toilet.

Ew...yeah. case closed.
 
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It is so hard to not fall in love w/ a girl first when u r only going for that girl n nobody else. I tried to resist but I still gave in in several weeks.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Imagine yourself jumping out of an airplane, the FEELING that would rush over you, and the thoughts about, "Naw, I'm not going through with this, nuh ah," but you finally just say Fvck it, and Jump. Well, having survived that experience, you decide to drive up a narrow dirt rocky mountain road, with little margin of error driving. Annnnd, you make it, no problem, and back down. You DO enough of this risky sh!t, and fvck, a woman you see who you don't want to fvck it up with, you just pretend, you're riding that risky edge, and just Do it. Just talk (with nervousness, but I've done it before, I'll do it again rolling through your mind).
 
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