"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Alex_L

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This girl i've known for 2 years been very close too actually and I decided friday that i'd play ganji games (i.e walk away too stop her bull****) .. so i wrote her an email friday where i basically called her a slag and stuff and sed shed be pregenant within a year, that i werent bothered bout her no more and that i was gonna walk away, cause she had messed me about.

She texted me saturday night ( she hadnt read my email by then ) and i just told her t **** off and that i werent bother,.. she then sent me loads of texts asking me why i was bein a nasty ****, and asked me too ring up up an apologise (which i never, just ignored her)

Today came (sunday) and i pick up my phone bout 8 tonight and noticed i had a missed called a text from her,..the texted sed i just wanted too say goodbye.... so i ran her up and she was crying,.. and i just carried on acting really cold...... :S I feel really bad now, I'm not a bad person.. i only did it cause i felt it was a game , but her crying mae me think.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Alex in regards to your reference to Ganji games.

I think what you should have done was not let her know you were going to walk away and not be "bothered" with her, then hit the power button and cut off all contact. That will test her true interest level and if she really likes you she will come crawling back.

YOu are suppose to ganji a girl when they don't expect it.
 

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Originally posted by Interpol
You're an idiot.

Blatantly insulting a girl has absolutely nothing to do with Ganji games. There is no good reason she should ever talk to you again.

I know insulting her aint in the rules for ganji,.. but she had gained all the power and she had plenty of other men crawling all over her .. I truely acting like i didnt care.. and I don't thin k i should of done that .. she sed the things I sed have hurt her more than anything anyone has ever sed too her :(
 

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Why did you call her names? Did she deserve it?

Acting like you didnt care you say... no my friend, you acted like a pretty big *******.

If no, apologize for your actions. And do not say "IT IS AFC TO APOLOGIZE". What you did was ****ed up, now have the balls to call her back and apologize for your actions. Just know that she has no reason to talk to you again, like said by another member of the board.

Calling a girl names like that is part of Ganji Games? HAHAHAHAHA

She cried because she probably had feelings for you.

Oh by the way, if you had any means of getting with her you probably blew your chances
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by Alex_L
I truely acting like i didnt care..
No, you were acting like a moron. And a rude one at that.

Next time you want to show someone you don't care, just walk away. Don't preach about walking away, just do it man. Works wonders, surprisingly.:rolleyes:

And she has plenty of guys around her as you say? So what, deal with it. Any good looking girl does. I don't think you're after 'playing' these Ganji Games at all, you're just jealous of something and the best way you could deal with it was to speak to her like you did.

Rude. Idiot. Simple.
 

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I feel for this chick :(

You didn't act like a "man", you acted like a little brat; first announcing you were taking your toys and going home, then throwing dirt in her face. I'm sure that will make her want to come crawling to you.

How does doing what you did elicit value to her?

I guess this is just an example of how limited knowledge can be more dangerous than none at all. Text her right now and tell her how much of a $hit a$$ you are. Use those words too, and don't post again until you do.
 
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