"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Feedback...potentially awkward situation!

Serg897

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Im a big social dancer (Salsa/Swing/ballroom) and this is a huge avenue for my meeting of women - its also a fantastic date idea.

However, when you start to date multiple women that go to dance in the same places it increases chances that may start finding out about each other!

The situation, in brief:

I meet girl A Salsaing. I've been on only 3 dates with her. Hasn't gotten further than a kiss, but tonight its likely to get further than that. Girl A wants to learn swing, so Im taking her to my usual venue on Mondays for swing (and giving her a *private* lesson beforehand..hmm). However, there is also Girl B, who I met at this place, and took dancing to a different place last week (first date with her - also kiss closed). She tells me today that she will be at the Monday venue tonight, when I already made plans to show up with Girl A. I told Girl B I may show up, knowing full well that I'll be there.

Im probably making a bigger deal out of this than it is, but I would like feedback. What I plan to do is simply introduce them to each other and pretend its no big deal. I'll just do my best to make sure girl B doesn't see me walk in/leave with girl A.

Thoughts?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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You'll be generating interest from these gals. Drives em nuts to see that another woman is interested in the same man as they are. Don't flaunt it. Be cool, confident and polite. Do this, and they will be drooling over you in no time.
 

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Serg897 said:
However, when you start to date multiple women that go to dance in the same places it increases chances that may start finding out about each other!
Don't hide it. You don't need to broadcast it out loud, but don't hide it, don't make a big deal out of it, because if you don't, in the end they won't either.
 
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