"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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mustfirstregister

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Today I approached a girl in a crowded mall and started conversation, it didn't go well. She tells me she has to meet her friends. Then she politely asks me "can I go now?", I said yes, I'm not stopping you.

Any ideas why she had to say "can I go now?" instead of just walking away?
Has this happened to you? Was my response fine? or should I have responded in a different way?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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betheman

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She was blowing you and out sounded mildly irritated, almost like you were forcing yourself on her, nothing more than that but examine your approach, were you approaching or interrogating?
 

Who Dares Win

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Yeah if she was interested she would not have go even if her friends were waiting for her (still we dont know if those friends really existed).

The way she said that "can I go now?" shows her level of irritation, a sarcastic annoyed way shows that you need to calibrate your approach while a less sarcastic and more funny way possibly smiling shows that you didnt "creep" her too much and she was just uninterested but without any major discomfort.

For example if you approach a girl nervously and straight up tell her to go eat an ice cream with you in that same moment, its very probable she will speak to you just to avoid pissing you off out of fear while turning sarcastic once found out you pose no threat.

If instead you approach her indirectly asking something about the mall or where you can find something and then start the flirting, she would get your point but realize you're a cool guy trying to pick her up, so even if she is not interested you still have a somehow positive reaction.
 
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