"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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mustfirstregister

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Today I approached a girl in a crowded mall and started conversation, it didn't go well. She tells me she has to meet her friends. Then she politely asks me "can I go now?", I said yes, I'm not stopping you.

Any ideas why she had to say "can I go now?" instead of just walking away?
Has this happened to you? Was my response fine? or should I have responded in a different way?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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betheman

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She was blowing you and out sounded mildly irritated, almost like you were forcing yourself on her, nothing more than that but examine your approach, were you approaching or interrogating?
 

Who Dares Win

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Yeah if she was interested she would not have go even if her friends were waiting for her (still we dont know if those friends really existed).

The way she said that "can I go now?" shows her level of irritation, a sarcastic annoyed way shows that you need to calibrate your approach while a less sarcastic and more funny way possibly smiling shows that you didnt "creep" her too much and she was just uninterested but without any major discomfort.

For example if you approach a girl nervously and straight up tell her to go eat an ice cream with you in that same moment, its very probable she will speak to you just to avoid pissing you off out of fear while turning sarcastic once found out you pose no threat.

If instead you approach her indirectly asking something about the mall or where you can find something and then start the flirting, she would get your point but realize you're a cool guy trying to pick her up, so even if she is not interested you still have a somehow positive reaction.
 
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