"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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hbxdoode

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i've known this girl for sometime now. her older sister is married to my older brother. i met her about a year a half ago at my brother's wedding. the first time i saw her, i thought she was really hot, but i had a girlfriend at the time. but now that i dont have a girl friend, i've been trying to get at her. we've hung out a couple times and i really like this girl, she is sweet, smart, we have really good conversations, not to mention she is really hot. i dont really know how to act towards someone like her, dont really want to come on too strong and scare her away... she is not the typical girl. she is very innocent and has never had a boyfriend, my sources are very reliable. i know she likes to spend time with me, and enjoys my company, and i feel like we have good chemistry.

so i went ahead and to her that " i think she's great and i really like her" and she response with " im really flattered, if you mean it like that, i dont know what to say, youre a great friend to have". the family thing kind of weird for her, and she is "unpositive that it will lead anywhere"! its not the answer i was anticipating. what does this mean? should i keep trying? or give up, is it too early to give up? maybe she's responding this way due to inexperience? or what? i really like this girl so a little feedback please, thanks
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You should have been showing her you have it for her, not just surprise her later with "I really like you".

I wouldn't have said that.
 
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