"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Fear of Success

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I want to start a discussion on the fear of success.

The fear of success is defined as:

Fear that you will accomplish all that you set out to, but that you still won't be happy, content, or satisfied once you reach your goal.

Belief that you are undeserving of all the good things and recognition that come your way as a result of your accomplishments and successes.

Opposite of fear of failure, in that fear of failure is the fear of making mistakes and losing approval. Fear of success is the fear of accomplishment and being recognized and honored.

Lack of belief in your own ability to sustain your progress, and the accomplishments you have achieved in your life.

Fear that your accomplishments can self-destruct at anytime.

Belief that no matter how much you are able to achieve or accomplish, it will never be enough to sustain success.

Belief that there are others out there who are better than you, who will replace or displace you if you do not maintain your performance record.

Belief that success is an end in itself; yet that end is not enough to sustain your interest and/or commitment.

Fear that once you have achieved the goals you have worked diligently for, the motivation to continue will fade.

Fear that you will find no happiness in your accomplishments; that you will be perpetually dissatisfied with life.

You know you want to succeed, yet you have a fear of success. One part of you is trying like heck to work hard, make all the right moves, and get that competitive edge...
While at the same time, another part of you is trembling with fear doing everything possible to sabotage your efforts. The harder you try - the harder this sabotage rears its head, chopping you off at the knees once again.

You know your life will improve if you are more confident, able to create wealth, be powerful and persuasive - yet, you keep giving up just when you get close. Or you make stupid mistakes. Or maybe you lose your motivation and just get lazy, even though you know you are a high achiever.

No matter how successful you are, or what you have accomplished, if you have a deep seated belief that you are unworthy, your subconscious mind will help you comply with your deepest belief that you are not worthy of that kind of success.

Even though you consciously want to succeed for all the right reasons, your subconscious mind probably has a ton of evidence that you are not good enough that is deeply rooted.

Your are not worthy

You do not deserve success

Nobody wants to hear what you have to say

You are not good enough

You may know, on a conscious level, that you are good enough, educated enough, smart enough. But your inner mind is not convinced. When you were very young your mind was an open slate. You had no evidence to the contrary when you formed your first, and most profound beliefs


It's something that I think I suffer from and I'd like to hear about other guys' experiences with it and how they overcame it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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yup, looking back I must say that I sabotaged myself a lot to not achieve what I could have achieved. how to overcome? ignore all set backs and ALWAYS work on a postive mindset....but if u had a negative attidude for years than it can take really long....
 

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Wow i really did sabatage myself b4 i started seeing it.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I scored a -2. Don't know what that means, but it said that I'm "basically okay."

You'll find your answer if you buy the book "The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem" by Nathaniel Branden.

It basically said that your fear of success, along with many other things, can be traced by to low self-esteem. And it will go into detail the characteristic of healthy self-esteem.

I'm begining to feel like a promoter of this book. Ha. Seriously, the book truly gave me an epiphany on the subject. So go Buy IT.
 
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