"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I have this huge fear of confronting people, when somebody is verbally attacking me, i never fight back.

This can be traced when i was 14 yrs old, i had this huge fight with my father and never saw him or talk to him ever again (im 21). this was by phone, so this explains why i hate using the phone too.

the thing is that i hate this shiet, i already acknowledge the problem, but dont know how i cant change this, because its like a trauma i have. and it is affecting me, when hoes try to disrespect me, or when other people try. i just ignore them.

I dont give a shiet about what people think, im past through that , but when im being disrespected i have this thing in my mind bothering me saying i cant take this shiet, but then i also have the fear of confrontation.

any advice?

by the way, thank you guys. this shiet is very personal. nobody knows.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Please read these posts first before anything:


http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=136262

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=16903

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=142003

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=135838

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=141177

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=138456


Now, yes, that IS a LOT of reading.
But this is what I want you to do.

I want you to use your analytical brain, to read and comprhend this material, and then use your creative brain to put this into action by integrating it into your life.


So begin by doing some intellectual study. Feed your mind the ideas and principles that will propel your mind, to give strength to your Will, which will propel your Body into ACTION.


Get informed first.
 
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Sometimes it's not easy to stand up and say what you gotta say to people. But, you must over come your fears just like in any other situation. Cause if you don't confront people they won't know how you feel. An example from my experience would be. I caught my girlfriend doing something that I didn't like so, I tell her what the business is and she better not do it again.

Cause, if I didn't tell her how I felt she probably would of kept doing it. Which, is why you have to confront people about sh!t. Or its gonna keep happening.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Jflex,
do you have any questions?
 
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j-flex said:
I have this huge fear of confronting people, when somebody is verbally attacking me, i never fight back.

This can be traced when i was 14 yrs old, i had this huge fight with my father and never saw him or talk to him ever again (im 21). this was by phone, so this explains why i hate using the phone too.

the thing is that i hate this shiet, i already acknowledge the problem, but dont know how i cant change this, because its like a trauma i have. and it is affecting me, when hoes try to disrespect me, or when other people try. i just ignore them.

I dont give a shiet about what people think, im past through that , but when im being disrespected i have this thing in my mind bothering me saying i cant take this shiet, but then i also have the fear of confrontation.

any advice?

by the way, thank you guys. this shiet is very personal. nobody knows.
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You need counseling. Seek help.
 
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Jack, this is what he's trying to do here, bro.


I want to know whats going on in his head right now after he read all that stuff.
Surely he must have made some insights to help steer him somewhere.

I dont think the guy needs professional help as of yet.
But I want to know what hes thinking.


I will say this, there was a guy who posted some rules about being a man, and he included 'Take up Martial Arts' , and I wholeheartedly concur!!
But some guys actually laughed at him for suggesting it.

I was talking to a real life guru guy the other day, he told me the same thing about something 'very weird' that is "happening to young men today".

he has a hard time fathoming how many men today do not place value on morals, ethics, codes of honor, self respect, and the value of a physical discipline like the martial arts.

Dude, arent you curious as to just what the fvck is going on with the men today?!
 
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