"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Fear of calling someone

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i dont know why but ever since i was a little kid i have been always scared to call someone on the phone.

When I was growing up my friends always use to call me to go hang out or goto there houses. Then i moved in 7th grade and i havent much contact with anybody outside of school since, i have been doing better getting peoples #'s, but i feel so desperate and stupid calling people..

Anytips to help me overcome this
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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DJ4Real

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Confidence issues on your part. Build up your confidence.
 

penkitten

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what do you think shes gonna do ?
act like she doesnt know you and hang up?

if you wanna talk to her call her, you will be able to tell in her voice if she wants to keep talking.
 

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yeah.. i kinda have the same problem

What you do is:

1)Stop using MSN, AIM, or anythign like that (this'll probably make u desperate to talk - so you must revert to the phone lol)

2)Start talking to your friends on the phone that are boys to get you started

3)Call some close friends that are girls, that uve known for a long time

4)Call the ones you like
 

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since i've been a kid, i've stuttered like an idiot. Along with that came a pretty strong fear of calling people.

Over the years, i've pretty much gotten over it. I think what helped alot was getting people to call me, and just getting comfortable with it.

It may sound crazy to some people, but its a real fear.

Now I'm 23, i still stutter once in a while when i'm very tired or something, but its barely noticable, and I just took the attitude of what the hell i'm going to call anybody, so I call all kinds of girls and my phone is loaded with contacts.

Its weird, i can call girls, the only time i get nervous to call is when i have to call to setup a doctor appointment or the mechanic.

Yep, i'm a weirdo as well, but its ok i suppose, i still get laid.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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oakraiderz2

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So many people are scared...thes no real way to overcome anything unless you face it...its that goddamn simple. Its not a phobia so you wont be scared after facing you fear.
 

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in my opinion, people are afraid to talk on the phone cause its one on one, and their nervous about that. if you just get used to talking one on one in person, the phone should be no problem. But to get good at that, you need to work up your confidence . so the root of the issue, i think, is a lack of confidence
 
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