"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

Fear...is taking over my life

612_Da_Playa

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 5, 2005
Messages
95
Reaction score
0
Age
37
Location
Minneapolis
Fear.
Fear of approaching
Fear of failure
Fear is starting to enrapture my life essentially. And no I'm not a shy hermit at school. Quite the contrary, straight A student, great presenter, involved in school, great looks(however I stress looks don't mean squat) however I just can't overcome failure. I want to get out of that perfectionist mindset. I put this here for more of an adult response rather than in the high school forum. This essentially is my last stanza as a DJ and just in completing myself I believe. I will have no further use for this site once I figure this issue out. Suggestions would be much appreciated
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

Chase Dat Skuht

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 13, 2007
Messages
53
Reaction score
1
You wont be done with yourself. Ever. Theres always room for improvement. Always new stuff to learn.

So you realize you're afraid? Take control, be a man, and fix the problem from the root.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

Lord Shinra

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Sep 4, 2007
Messages
341
Reaction score
2
Location
NJ
Practice at every opportunity you get in approaches, and learn to accept everything in life. Good and Bad.

Clear your mind. Sometimes you need to close your eyes in order to see.
 
Top