"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Fear...is taking over my life

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612_Da_Playa

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Fear.
Fear of approaching
Fear of failure
Fear is starting to enrapture my life essentially. And no I'm not a shy hermit at school. Quite the contrary, straight A student, great presenter, involved in school, great looks(however I stress looks don't mean squat) however I just can't overcome failure. I want to get out of that perfectionist mindset. I put this here for more of an adult response rather than in the high school forum. This essentially is my last stanza as a DJ and just in completing myself I believe. I will have no further use for this site once I figure this issue out. Suggestions would be much appreciated
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Chase Dat Skuht

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You wont be done with yourself. Ever. Theres always room for improvement. Always new stuff to learn.

So you realize you're afraid? Take control, be a man, and fix the problem from the root.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Practice at every opportunity you get in approaches, and learn to accept everything in life. Good and Bad.

Clear your mind. Sometimes you need to close your eyes in order to see.
 
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