“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Fear and Courage

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Hey guys,
I feel like sharing something that I'm doing with all of you. Just finished my senior year in high school and want to do some self-improvement before heading off to a new life in college.


For a while, I've believed that true courage does not mean that one has no fear. In fact, I believe that fear is necessary for courage to exist, because courage is the ability to face one's fear.


The character of Batman was a big inspiration for me. I really admired how he was extremely afraid of bats, so he exposed himself to them in the most direct way, thus facing his fear and conquering it.




That being said, here's my challenge to myself that I feel might be a good idea for other people as well.

I am going to make a list of everything that I am scared of. I don't know how many items will be on it. Maybe 10, maybe 50. But I will try to literally think of every single thing that freaks me the fwck out, no matter how weird.



I will rank the list in order from least fear to most fear. Then, time to get working. Like Batman did with the caves, I will expose myself heavily to each fear down the list, one at a time.


For example, I do still have an irrational fear of being alone in the dark at times. To expose myself to this, I will lock myself in the darkest part of the house (our basement) one night after my family's asleep, and stay there until I conquer the fear and am able to fall asleep.

Not every fear on the list will be practically possible to intentionally expose myself to, such as death, or death of someone I know. However, I will try to get through as many as I can.




Some of the fears might be less tangible, such as "fear of failure" or unaccesible, like a fear of snakes. Fine. I'll leave those there for now, and maybe someday I'll have an opportunity to confront them.

Courage is the ability to face one's fear. I want to find out how much courage I have.
 

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This sounds like a worthy endeavor. Keep us updated on your progress.
 

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Looks good, but a couple points to make:

1. Look at fear pragmatically, there's usually a reason why you're afraid of something. Try to learn more about what you're afraid of and that knowledge will set you free.

2. Sometimes fear is good. Are you afraid of running blindfolded across a 16 lane freeway? Good, you should be. See my point? Fear is a safety mechanism in our genetics through millions of years of trial and error on behalf of our ancestors.

Fear alone isn't necessarily a bad thing, it's when unjustified fear prevents you from living a fulfilling life, that's when fear becomes a problem and should be addressed.
 

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Give us your list, and then we will admire your courage.
 
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