FB says she loves me - what to do?

[powpow]

Kind of an awkward situation.

I met a girl at a bar a couple of weeks ago, took her back to her place, and ****ed her for about a day.

We have been dirty texting like every day, but nothing really special. Nothing about work, life, anything but just sex.

I get home from her house last night, open up my phone, and its a text saying that she loves me.

This is really my first FB... and I certainly dont love her. But as a gentleman, I do not want to hurt this girl. She is really sweet... Also 29. I thought she was in it for the same reason as me.

So how do I respond to this? Is this a huge red flag? I would like to keep up the sort of relationship weve been having, because she is excellent in bed, but I am not sure that that is possible now that her feeling have gotten involved.

Im also spinning more plates than I can handle right now anyway. Any advice?

 

[bukowski_merit]

If you're spending a good bit of time with this woman (i don't know from your description) and fvcking her good - then it's not abnormal for her to develop these feelings rather quickly.... I've heard it as quickly as 5 days before (with a girl that i spent 4 out of those 5 days fvcking for hours)...

Sex is much more of a bonding experience for women. And that experiences releases all kinds of chimicals and "feel good" through her body, which is what makes her "fall in love".

With each orgasm they have - chemicals in their body bond them to you even more. This is essentially natures attempt to keep women from being hoes.

The only protection from this (for the man) is to only see her occasionally. And to make sure she is seeing other people (and fvcking them). The problem is - MOST guys/girls cannot deal with having a FB/FWB who fvcks other people (madonna/***** complex). This is why most FB/FWB situations end up turning into relationships after some jealousy plotline pops up. Or one person developes a lot more feelings for the other one and the relationship ends (normally because the person who didn't develope the same feelings was not being exclusive).

Now, if you're only seeing her like once a week - then yeah, something isn't right here. But even fvcking a girl for a whole day can make her "fall" for you.



As far as keeping the relationship as you've had it: Yes, it is possible. But i'd bet good money on her beginning to sh!t test you now. And begin a process of trying to lock you down (which can include walking away in hopes you follow.)

 

[vatoloco]

I get home from her house last night, open up my phone, and its a text saying that she loves me.

Did you cuddle with her after sex or did you immediately leave? Cuddling after orgasms (when she's still releasing oxytocin, I believe) might lead her to develop the bonding feelings that b_m has already talked about.

Also, keep in mind that she might have texted that ILU bomb impulsively (while she was high on oxytocin) and might not really fully feel that way...

The way I'd play it off is to keep the FB relationship just the way it is. Act as if she never sent anything. If she doesn't bring it up, proceed as normal. If she does bring it up, do some light C&F ("Of course you do! You're a smart girl! ") and play it down.

But if you're planning to keep her as a FB for a while, I'd skip on the cuddling and "bonding" activities. Unless of course, you want her to get attached to you.

Also, keep in mind that if this girl is Japanese, 29 is a critical age for an unmarried, childless woman in Japan. Proceed with caution.

 

[powpow]

I get what both of you guys are saying and thanks a lot for the input.

Man hell yeah I cuddle. This girl takes it like a champ and after about and hour or two of hard pounding, man you just get tired and wanna relax for a second. granted, I see what youre saying, its a dangerous game to play.

Im gonna create some distance for a little while - hopefully she doesnt take it the wrong way. No more goodnight texts. You guys rock.

 

[LoneWolf]

i noticed you're from japan. she's gotta be hot right!? mmm japanese girls.

 

[powpow]

youre kidding bro.

Japanese women in general are not all that great, honestly.

but when they are hot, or cute, or a combination of the two, its b0ner city.

to answer your question, 8.5. and rich. like a gold plate.

 

[LoneWolf]

does she make those porn noises when u fuk her? those little cute high pitched moans? oohh yeah1

 

[Thundernuts]

does she make those porn noises when u fuk her? those little cute high pitched moans? oohh yeah1

If you can't tell by now Lonewolf spends alot of time playing playstation. The only things japanese that he's exposed to is a little boy saying he's a girl, video games, and japanese porn.

Don't feed his addiction man.

 

[LoneWolf]

uhhhh no. already stated in my last thread it wasnt a boy. photo proof with my name on a paper she wrote it down along with something else. but whatever gets you off pal.

 

[Thundernuts]

Lonewolf, you have my word i will never say anything like that about you again, but damn after reading all that crap yesterday, i just couldn't help myself.