"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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oneboy21

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I met this girl couple of weeks ago at the house where i live, she visited with her friends and i was able to strike up conv with her
i found her on FB and sent this message, i know its not that funny

ME: Aren't yu the girl, who came to my house with your friends....
Happy fourth of July. Just wanted to say hi

HEr: Hey hii... u got me right! im the one..

She lives in a different state than i do

what should i reply, and escalate this
Suggest some thing please
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Did you tell her you wanted to add her? If not is a little weird and I don't see too many chances for you unless you talked to her for a while. Next time if you meet somebody who lives out of state you have to try to go for the lay if possible. If you are just having fun and wanna hang out with her. You should tell her "you know what. I like you, I'm gonna add you on facebook in case I'm around there". Or something like that. It's very low risk and most girls actually like that. Just let this one go.
Do not:
poke her
message her
comment or like anything she says and anything she posts unless you think is really funny or something.
You are only gonna smother this one. In her head you are just some random guy she met. Don't be the weird guy she met and won't leave her alone on facebook.
Hope that helps
BTW work on your opening, that was weak
 

oneboy21

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i agree the opening was weak as hell, i should i asked for some advice from seniors here :)
 

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I just entered into a long-distance relationship with a chick I met on a discussion forum a few years ago, and who has been on my Facebook for the past seven months. We live two states away. I think you really have to be schooled in the psychology of seduction, be a poetic wordsmith, and be a highly valued guy, to have a realistic chance, because there are tens of thousands of guys living closer to her than you and "out of sight, out of mind."

Read the book the Art of Seduction by Robert Greene, and read Roissy (roissy.wordpress.com).
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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dereklovesugly said:
What's the point of dating someone you don't bang?
There's not much rationality to it, but sometimes people make such a connection they decide to throw caution to the wind, along with indulging in airline tickets and weekend road trips. Emotion trumps logic. The chances of anything lasting are very small but at least you can say you tried. Meanwhile, it's good to keep the eye out for local ladies.
 
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