Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Agreed. I'm 5'11" and I've come to love that same exact height bracket. Plus, curvy petit women tend to be ridiculously fun in bed.GS750 said:I'm 6'0". I like them around 5'-5'4". I am not into tall women at all...not sure why.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I'm 5'7. My most recent ex was in the 5'8 - 5'9 range and loved wearing heels. The height difference isn't noticeable to other people if you carry yourself confidently. The biggest issue with height differences is generally the dude involved. If he feels insecure about it, it's gonna show. I tend to like shorter chicks because of my height, but I do have a thing for long legs... so I don't rule-out tall drinks o' water.drummerdude27 said:Anyone ever date a girl slightly taller than them? Just curious. I am 5'7 and this girl I am kinda seeing is 5'8. Different than all the girls ive ever dated but shes a pretty gal.
The girl in the picture is not curvy she is a bit anorexic in my perceptionI like em tiny. Im 5'8-5"9 and I like 5'4 or less. Small petite thin. I dont really like curves. I like em built for speed and stealth. Even chicks under 5 feet turn me on. My Monday night bartender that I have been working on is barley 5 feet tall and she is soooo hot.
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Ok curves are cool sometimes.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
What do you think? just curiousAtom Smasher said:I generally prefer 5'6 and under, in keeping with my love of the contrast of femininity. I'm a little over 5'11.5" myself.
Interestingly, I've always noticed that women who are taller than me seem to find me attractive. I've had a couple of short flings with girls who were actually a good 2 inches taller than me. I haven't figured out why tall women seem to smile at me in an inviting way. And it may not be a good reason... I just have no idea but the tendency is certainly there.
Oh, and by the way, OP, you're banned.
lol... correctLast of the Alphas said:You would never pull out of that girl, and you know it.
She's pretty hot.. Maybe I like petite women but... She looks great.PeasantPlayer said:The girl in the picture is not curvy she is a bit anorexic in my perception
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.