Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Favorite Girl Officially Diagnosed with BPD

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Yes, the mirroring is over the top with these women. Gas lighting is really high also. Mine actually introduced the term Soul Mate early on.
i've been following the thread, and others have mentioned the same, but deesades post really drove that home for me. wow, how scary.

My ex MIL is BPD and she modeled that behavior to her daughter. There was a time I thought they were 'normal' and I just needed to figure out how they needed me to communicate with them so they would understand/hear me. They were tumultuous and vindictive with me the entire time i was married....really got in the middle of my relationship. Kept making my ex choose between them and me. It didn't start out that way. They were very nice, and welcoming, almost embracing, for a year or two. His sister always wanted a sister.....

Then the nastiness started. I couldn't say a sentence without offending them, and offending them unleashed two very ugly human beings.

I still shudder to think about it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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i've been following the thread, and others have mentioned the same, but deesades post really drove that home for me. wow, how scary.

My ex MIL is BPD and she modeled that behavior to her daughter. There was a time I thought they were 'normal' and I just needed to figure out how they needed me to communicate with them so they would understand/hear me. They were tumultuous and vindictive with me the entire time i was married....really got in the middle of my relationship. Kept making my ex choose between them and me. It didn't start out that way. They were very nice, and welcoming, almost embracing, for a year or two. His sister always wanted a sister.....

Then the nastiness started. I couldn't say a sentence without offending them, and offending them unleashed two very ugly human beings.

I still shudder to think about it.
Yes, they eventually make apparent exactly what they are.
The truth always surfaces.
 
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The best way to look at it is that they show who you are.

As do women in general, actually. But these types really especially bring out your weaknesses.
Yes, they appeal to men that need to hear and experience their b.s.
I did once.
It's mostly a low self perception issue as I see it.
 
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If this BPD stripper really was delusioneil favorite he should have went for the Valentine's two for one special at their local psychiatrist office.
 

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well at least you found out BEFORE she ruined your life
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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