"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Favorite Girl Officially Diagnosed with BPD

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Yes, the mirroring is over the top with these women. Gas lighting is really high also. Mine actually introduced the term Soul Mate early on.
i've been following the thread, and others have mentioned the same, but deesades post really drove that home for me. wow, how scary.

My ex MIL is BPD and she modeled that behavior to her daughter. There was a time I thought they were 'normal' and I just needed to figure out how they needed me to communicate with them so they would understand/hear me. They were tumultuous and vindictive with me the entire time i was married....really got in the middle of my relationship. Kept making my ex choose between them and me. It didn't start out that way. They were very nice, and welcoming, almost embracing, for a year or two. His sister always wanted a sister.....

Then the nastiness started. I couldn't say a sentence without offending them, and offending them unleashed two very ugly human beings.

I still shudder to think about it.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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i've been following the thread, and others have mentioned the same, but deesades post really drove that home for me. wow, how scary.

My ex MIL is BPD and she modeled that behavior to her daughter. There was a time I thought they were 'normal' and I just needed to figure out how they needed me to communicate with them so they would understand/hear me. They were tumultuous and vindictive with me the entire time i was married....really got in the middle of my relationship. Kept making my ex choose between them and me. It didn't start out that way. They were very nice, and welcoming, almost embracing, for a year or two. His sister always wanted a sister.....

Then the nastiness started. I couldn't say a sentence without offending them, and offending them unleashed two very ugly human beings.

I still shudder to think about it.
Yes, they eventually make apparent exactly what they are.
The truth always surfaces.
 
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The best way to look at it is that they show who you are.

As do women in general, actually. But these types really especially bring out your weaknesses.
Yes, they appeal to men that need to hear and experience their b.s.
I did once.
It's mostly a low self perception issue as I see it.
 
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If this BPD stripper really was delusioneil favorite he should have went for the Valentine's two for one special at their local psychiatrist office.
 

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well at least you found out BEFORE she ruined your life
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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