She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
he could just go to askmen.com and read about how to improve his dating life as well... though he'd probably get better advice here. But your right, I don't really think a fashion and style section is needed... men's fashion is pretty basic.Bling said:Hey princess, do you mind telling me why do you care so much? Go to askmen.com for fashion![]()
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Could be useful... I try to look my best, though despite what sosuave says about dressing nicely, my observations whow that the best quality girls statistically stick to guys with a simple pair of khaki cargo pants and a t-shirt... makes my wonder why I iron button downs every day... and why I don't just wear my khaki cargo pants and a t-shirt more often.Embrace said:Why isnt there a section on the forum for style and stuff like that? For the metro's around here. :rock:
You don't have to wear button-downs everyday if you don't want to.Archaxis said:Could be useful... I try to look my best, though despite what sosuave says about dressing nicely, my observations whow that the best quality girls statistically stick to guys with a simple pair of khaki cargo pants and a t-shirt... makes my wonder why I iron button downs every day... and why I don't just wear my khaki cargo pants and a t-shirt more often.![]()
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Quoted for truth; the quality is very, very bad but the fits are kinda nice. It's a good way to stock up on basics so you have more money to spend on the cool, more expensive sh¡t you need, i.e. JEANS.Scrumtulescence said:I just recently realized that Target actually has nice stylish, designer-like clothes for pretty cheap; I used to think they were just another Walmart. I suggest looking there for some stylish clothes if you think you can't afford any. Or if you wanna do more digging, go to a store like Marshalls.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.