Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Not just for metros. I have a feeling almost everyone here would benefit from good style advice.
 

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Hey princess, do you mind telling me why do you care so much? Go to askmen.com for fashion:down:
 

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Bling said:
Hey princess, do you mind telling me why do you care so much? Go to askmen.com for fashion:down:
he could just go to askmen.com and read about how to improve his dating life as well... though he'd probably get better advice here. But your right, I don't really think a fashion and style section is needed... men's fashion is pretty basic.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I wouldn't complain about a style section if the help is anywhere near that offered in the other boards.
 

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Why isnt there a section on the forum for style and stuff like that? For the metro's around here. :rock:
Could be useful... I try to look my best, though despite what sosuave says about dressing nicely, my observations whow that the best quality girls statistically stick to guys with a simple pair of khaki cargo pants and a t-shirt... makes my wonder why I iron button downs every day... and why I don't just wear my khaki cargo pants and a t-shirt more often. :confused:
 

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Archaxis said:
Could be useful... I try to look my best, though despite what sosuave says about dressing nicely, my observations whow that the best quality girls statistically stick to guys with a simple pair of khaki cargo pants and a t-shirt... makes my wonder why I iron button downs every day... and why I don't just wear my khaki cargo pants and a t-shirt more often. :confused:
You don't have to wear button-downs everyday if you don't want to.

Wear those khakis and t-shirts if you feel more comfortable in them.

I don't really think men need style advice, so long as they dress appropriately and decently for the occasion, and are comfortable wearing that.

Also: those tv shows like 'what not to wear' and 'queer eye for the straight guy' seem to prey on people's insecurities and try to make out that they will be so much "better" if they just bought the right clothes or read the right books, or appear cultured and sophisticated and whatnot.

However, when it really comes down to what 'makes or breaks' an individual, clothing is not important; it makes little difference, so long as it is decent and appropriate.
 

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Fashion and Style are two completely different things.

Fashion = what everybody is wearing, what media/marketing thinks everybody should wear, what people wear when they have low confidence and "want to fit in"

Style = what YOU wear, what you wear because YOU want to wear it, what you wear because that's "just what I wear, it's what I do, it's who I am"

To me, fashion sucks. It's too extreme. The "look that's in" now is dumpy and scrubby looking to me. How is it okay to buy new clothes that are ripped up and worn out? Silly. That sh!t makes you look like a scumbag right off the shelf? And you pay huge amounts of cash for it? Oooh, I know! Let's look like a scumbag with a blazer and aviator sunglasses on... yeah! Fashion sucks. It's a media game. And, it costs far too much to bother keeping up with it.

I'm pretty "metro" and I am frequently accused of being either metro or straight up gay. I wear the nice colognes, I keep clean-shaven, groom my fingernails, and I wear "smart" clothes. Overall, I look ultra-clean. However, my "style" and my "metroness" clash hard. And that's MY style.

For example, I'll wear spit-shined combat boots with all-black BDU pants tucked into them (wo0t! Army Style!) with a button-down shirt and a flex-fit cap without logos to the club. How does this work? Baggy and militant, yet, clean? Dumpy and sharp? If the boots were cruddy looking, it wouldn't work. If the hat had a baseball logo, it wouldn't work. If the pants were camo... well... that would still work, but, you gotta color coodinate the shirt and the hat... hmm... I gotta go shopping.

Truth be told, my combat boots are the most comfortable pair of shoes I have ever owned.

I wear clothes for comfort. I wear clothes because I can't run around naked. I wear clothes because I think they look cool, and I feel a certain way in them.

So the point is, there isn't a fashion and style forum here because a Don Juan's mindset isn't one of "Let me wear what everyone else does to impress people".
:nono:
Instead, a Don Juan wears clothes HE likes. He wears clothes that he wants because he feels good wearing them, or feels goofy wearing them, or feels naughty wearing them... a Don Juan doesn't need to discuss what's "hot and what's not". A Don Juan didn't become a Don Juan by slapping on designer threads, he became a Don Juan by changing his attitudes and becoming confident in himself. Any DJ will tell you: "Clothes don't make the Man. Look. I'm already a man, I could be in the club naked - I'd still be a man, and proud of it."

Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that fashion and style are not an important part of one's "game". I'm saying that it far too often gets more importance associated with it than it should.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I just open my drawers and grab the first 6 year pants and T-shirt I find, put on some random socks and my shoe.

Works for me.
 

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I rock WalMart Jeans, A clean white tee, and clean casual black shoes. Although that Khaki and tee idea sounds nice. Damn I wish I had money to buy clothing.
 

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I don't think a fashion/style board would be helpful, because nobody on this board, save a few, has knowledge in that regard.
 

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I think we should have one. Style matters more than some people think.
 

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I just recently realized that Target actually has nice stylish, designer-like clothes for pretty cheap; I used to think they were just another Walmart. I suggest looking there for some stylish clothes if you think you can't afford any. Or if you wanna do more digging, go to a store like Marshalls.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Scrumtulescence said:
I just recently realized that Target actually has nice stylish, designer-like clothes for pretty cheap; I used to think they were just another Walmart. I suggest looking there for some stylish clothes if you think you can't afford any. Or if you wanna do more digging, go to a store like Marshalls.
Quoted for truth; the quality is very, very bad but the fits are kinda nice. It's a good way to stock up on basics so you have more money to spend on the cool, more expensive sh¡t you need, i.e. JEANS.
 

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Eh, what's wrong with the quality? I always see people say "oh their clothes are crap quality, they but fall apart easily" about this or that store, but for the most part I never know what the hell they're talking about. You think if you buy some shirt at Target it's going to fall apart at the seams in a year? I have some pretty cool/stylish shirts I bought from places like Kohls and Sears one, two, three years ago, and they're still in perfect condition. I've also bought $20/30/40 (sometimes on sale) jeans and usually they stay in good condition. Buying really expensive clothes is overrated, unless it's necessary to get a certain style you're going for.

I could understand wanting to spend more on pants, because pants are more likely to fall apart or have something go wrong with them, but then again I've always been afraid to spend more than $70 on any kind of pants because it's so easy to still on them or stain them in some way. It's just not worth it IMO. Besides if you know where to look, you don't have to spend $130+ just to get a stylish looking pair of jeans or whatever.
 

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Target's house brand (Merona) T-shirts stretch very easily. They don't retain shape. You're better off buying a more expensive T-shirt that lasts longer, like American Apparel.

Don't buy Banana Republic T-shirts. They're overpriced and they fall apart and lose shape.
 

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I found a polo shirt at Wal Mart for 10 bucks that looked exactly the same as a polo shirt from a designer store for $30-$40. They both lasted the same amount of time. Both look the same. Both are made from the same material. The only difference? The expensive shirt has a logo on it. Says Chap or some sh!t like that. Don't know about y'all, but I'm sticking with Wal Mart!
 

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anybody wear AX or FCUK, Express is good and kinda cheap too. i think expensive clothing is needed sometimes to give you that boost of confidence. i dont care who you are but u will feel better in a tshirt that costs 30-40 compared to a fruit of the loom 5 dollar t.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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