"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Farmers Insurance Agent: How Exactly does this Work?

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www.farmersinsuranceagent.com

After posting my resume on monster.com, I received an email from this company explaining an opening as an Insurance agent. How exactly does this company operate?

I'm looking to get a sales job, but have no prior experience to speak of.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I tried this once. They told me I had to take classes, and pay for them, and first I had to start out by talking to random people on the street trying to give them insurance quotes based on the info they gave me.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
You have to telemarket, knock doors, or find another way to bring in business. It's a tough job.

For a guy who wants to try a sales job this summer (with little exp.), what would you suggest?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It's tough starting from scratch. Some people are better in person, and others are better over the phone. If you have a clean-cut "nice young man" appearance, in-person sales might work better. If you are tattooed and pierced, the phone might be better, unless you are selling to other tatooed and pierced people.

Probably the most important part of a sales job is believing that your product is a good deal for people. You have to sell it to yourself first, then your emotion is contagious. The second most important part is working with successful people. I worked with one group of guys who were so good at their job, that I could barely keep up with them. I only considered myself average. But later I learned that we were the top distributor in the seven state division, and my own sales numbers that were only average within my office were within the top 2% of all salespeople in the division. Much like unsuccessful people drag you down, very successful people will drag you up.
 
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