"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hello,
I am a B movie star who has acted in several movies since 1999,
I find that being so famous keeps me from hooking up with women, like many girls say I'm too good looking for them, others say I'm way too tall, I'm 6'2
I also weight lift a lot , 3 times a week, take the weekends off though..


Everytime I talk to a girl I shake... I wish I was just an average corporation worker sometimes.
What should I do?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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jcap said:
Hello,
I am a B movie star who has acted in several movies since 1999,
I find that being so famous keeps me from hooking up with women, like many girls say I'm too good looking for them, others say I'm way too tall, I'm 6'2
I also weight lift a lot , 3 times a week, take the weekends off though..


Everytime I talk to a girl I shake... I wish I was just an average corporation worker sometimes.
What should I do?



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iqqi can help with the "famous" issues. Ask her.

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We probably know some of the same people if you've ever done work in New York. PM me if you're uncomfortable saying it in the thread.

Regarding your issue, It's not the size of your body which is at issue but rather the size of your confidence.
 

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Hey Buddy,

I'd dont know your full story and as im new here i dont know your level of game either, so i'll just deal with the general side of things.

From what you've posted it sounds like the girl see's you as too high value e.g see doesnt deserve you or your out of her league...

the key here is to pace the reality, and build her status up closer to yours. if it comes up acknowledge it and put it into ways she can relate...

"yeah, im that guy...i do that because i have a passion for acting...have you ever enjoyed doing something so much it didnt seem like work, like you feel you should be paying your boss to do it? haha"

"really, tell me more"

ground the reality so she can relate....

start with comfort...
get to know her, what her passions, dreams, aspirations are. what she enjoys doing, see if you have any similarities...

then break rapport....
"you are so coming onto me"
"stop playing with your hair, i know what that means, you're hitting on me" (if (if she hits you its good, anything thing less than a punch in the face anyway)

Attraction...
you hit on her...

Escalation...
claw, soi, ect nclose, kclose, fclose

but all in all set the reality in a way she can relate to, which will eliminate the starstruck mentality.

ps always reward her for the right kind of answer/behavour. make her think shes earned you affection. this will also decrease your problem.

Good Luck,
Ziggy
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I have a hard time believing being famous would keep you from getting girls. For one thing rich and famous people tend to stick together and date in their clique. And secondly, no matter how goodlooking, rich and famous a guy is there's always some girl that thinks she deserves the guy.
 

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awesome man thats cool your an actor. =)

anyways just wait for the girls to come talking to you. that would be easy since girls like famous dudes. but i believe girls like tall dude especially guys that lift weights. so just keep hanging in there.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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jcap,

what are some the movies you're in? Post a picture of you so we know that you're not bsing us.
 

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jcap said:
...Everytime I talk to a girl I shake... I wish I was just an average corporation worker sometimes.
What should I do?
Are you saying that you are nervous because you are an actor??? What qualities would a corporate worker have that an actor wouldn't that would be beneficial to you?
 

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jcap said:
Hello,
I am a B movie star who has acted in several movies since 1999,
I find that being so famous keeps me from hooking up with women, like many girls say I'm too good looking for them, others say I'm way too tall, I'm 6'2
I also weight lift a lot , 3 times a week, take the weekends off though..


Everytime I talk to a girl I shake... I wish I was just an average corporation worker sometimes.
What should I do?
so you are tall and handsome and youre a famous actor...and you cant get girls??....let us know your name so i can rat you out to the national enquirer!

or you can just PM me with the number of your agent and how to break in the biz...
 

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I bet hes the guy from American Pie...I wish I was famous, the girls would flock to me like the salmon of capistrano.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ketostix said:
I have a hard time believing being famous would keep you from getting girls. For one thing rich and famous people tend to stick together and date in their clique. And secondly, no matter how goodlooking, rich and famous a guy is there's always some girl that thinks she deserves the guy.
most girls will auto-reject guys they think are out of their league. kinda like how nerds act when they're around dime pieces - they think they can't get them so they don't try, don't even bother to entertain the idea

neg hits are used to bring the girl's relative perception of value down - to convince the girl that he's good enough for her. this guy needs the opposite - he needs to convince the girl that she's good enough for HIM.

on the other hand, why are you shaking? maybe there's something else holding you back that doesn't have anything to do with you being famous
 

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Ken785 said:
so you are tall and handsome and youre a famous actor...and you cant get girls??....let us know your name so i can rat you out to the national enquirer!

or you can just PM me with the number of your agent and how to break in the biz...
Good one, Ken!:crackup:

Dude, you should have NO PROBLEM getting chicks! I have difficulties, read the threads I've started. Tall, handsome, famous, buff, and can't get a chick...I hope you don't have a face like Dustin Diamond!

My verdict...Women should be following you like bees on a honey dripped dog! YOU'RE FAMOUS DAMMIT!!! I'm about to be rich and famous like someone from MTV Cribs, and then be on that show! :up: Maybe there's something else holding you back, probably low confidence. :trouble: Boost that sh*t up, bro. When you do, watch those babes get all over you like gravy on rice!

BTW, do you have a IMDB profile?
 

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nismo-4 said:
Good one, Ken!:crackup:

Dude, you should have NO PROBLEM getting chicks! I have difficulties, read the threads I've started. Tall, handsome, famous, buff, and can't get a chick...I hope you don't have a face like Dustin Diamond!

My verdict...Women should be following you like bees on a honey dripped dog! YOU'RE FAMOUS DAMMIT!!! I'm about to be rich and famous like someone from MTV Cribs, and then be on that show! :up: Maybe there's something else holding you back, probably low confidence. :trouble: Boost that sh*t up, bro. When you do, watch those babes get all over you like gravy on rice!

BTW, do you have a IMDB profile?
yeah...but how can he have low confidence?? its an actor!
 

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Can't you just "ACT" like you have confidence... or do you need a good script writer for that?

It be hard getting one these days seeing how their on strike and all. lol



I'm imagining the guy from 40 year old virgin. He just needs to get a couple hood rats under his belt and quit acting so nice.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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