"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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false time constraints when arranging a date?

drift king

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i'm trying to arrange a date with this HB from facebook but noticing the back and forths with her messaging wise if i send a message at a certain time of day and she doesn't check her facebook for a few hours she's likely to get about 20 messages so ends up not replying to me..

she only wants to make arrangements by text (i think she's cheap) so i made arrangement for tomorrow or wednesday saying i was busy tonight. she comes back to me saying shes not sure about tomorrow, cant do wednesday bu hows friday to sunday, one of those evenings.

i come back with i got parties to go to friday and saturday from 10pm onwards but not plans for sunday (yet), so i could meet her for 1.5hours max if it's at 8pm friday, so i told her the location to meet but she didn't get back to me yet..

given what shes like with her FB msgs i dont expect a response now. i'll text her on thursday to ask if we're on for friday but usually when i do this i'll get either a direct flat 'sorry cant do tomorrow' and no counter offer or she'll say 'sorry cant do tomorrow, lets do it next week' but this isn't really a counter offer, it's neither here nor there.

knowing what she's like i can guarantee she'll be going clubbing with her girls from 10pm onwards so it's smart i've put a time constraint on the date. but if i was to send: 'hey so we on for tomorrow then? p.s. if not, i can do sat between 8-10pm but i got a party to go to after so will have to leave by 10'

that would give 2 options for a time if she flakes, does it make me sound too available?

im just tryna cover my bases in case she flakes for friday but wary that if i offer saturday as well despite the party thing after i look too available.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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drift king

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no the timings is false i.e. i'd get there for midnight.. not 10pm etc.

but does the way i've written the text sound like i'm too available?

im just covering bases in case i go for friday and she says no and doesn't counter offer. i dont expect a counter offer from a FB chick.
 

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if you know this girl through a social circle or whatever and she has a feel for your character, then don't feel the need to be "constantly busy" dude. If you aren't always busy or out doing crap, then let it known. It's not a big deal as long as youre still a social person with a life. Not everyone does stuff every day of the week, or weekend.
She'll likely just see you as someone who doesnt stress over going out cause he doesnt feel the need to constantly. It seriously won't be a big deal, even if she's a party girl herself. Embrace yourself.

If you don't really know her and you still feel the need to give off a good impression of your character and lifestyle, then I suppose you can fake time constraints to communicate to her that you're a busy person and do, in fact, have a life and aren't too available.
 

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this is a facebook girl. i dont want to give her any reason not to meet up with me cos im a stranger. so if im too keen, it's over. but at the same time i need to show my authority all i was asking was whether what i wrote make me look too available? that's all.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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