false time constraints when arranging a date?

[drift king]

i'm trying to arrange a date with this HB from facebook but noticing the back and forths with her messaging wise if i send a message at a certain time of day and she doesn't check her facebook for a few hours she's likely to get about 20 messages so ends up not replying to me..

she only wants to make arrangements by text (i think she's cheap) so i made arrangement for tomorrow or wednesday saying i was busy tonight. she comes back to me saying shes not sure about tomorrow, cant do wednesday bu hows friday to sunday, one of those evenings.

i come back with i got parties to go to friday and saturday from 10pm onwards but not plans for sunday (yet), so i could meet her for 1.5hours max if it's at 8pm friday, so i told her the location to meet but she didn't get back to me yet..

given what shes like with her FB msgs i dont expect a response now. i'll text her on thursday to ask if we're on for friday but usually when i do this i'll get either a direct flat 'sorry cant do tomorrow' and no counter offer or she'll say 'sorry cant do tomorrow, lets do it next week' but this isn't really a counter offer, it's neither here nor there.

knowing what she's like i can guarantee she'll be going clubbing with her girls from 10pm onwards so it's smart i've put a time constraint on the date. but if i was to send: 'hey so we on for tomorrow then? p.s. if not, i can do sat between 8-10pm but i got a party to go to after so will have to leave by 10'

that would give 2 options for a time if she flakes, does it make me sound too available?

im just tryna cover my bases in case she flakes for friday but wary that if i offer saturday as well despite the party thing after i look too available.

 

[MisterMcGee]

youre saying you arent actually going to these parties?

 

[drift king]

no the timings is false i.e. i'd get there for midnight.. not 10pm etc.

but does the way i've written the text sound like i'm too available?

im just covering bases in case i go for friday and she says no and doesn't counter offer. i dont expect a counter offer from a FB chick.

 

[MisterMcGee]

if you know this girl through a social circle or whatever and she has a feel for your character, then don't feel the need to be "constantly busy" dude. If you aren't always busy or out doing crap, then let it known. It's not a big deal as long as youre still a social person with a life. Not everyone does stuff every day of the week, or weekend.
She'll likely just see you as someone who doesnt stress over going out cause he doesnt feel the need to constantly. It seriously won't be a big deal, even if she's a party girl herself. Embrace yourself.

If you don't really know her and you still feel the need to give off a good impression of your character and lifestyle, then I suppose you can fake time constraints to communicate to her that you're a busy person and do, in fact, have a life and aren't too available.

 

[drift king]

this is a facebook girl. i dont want to give her any reason not to meet up with me cos im a stranger. so if im too keen, it's over. but at the same time i need to show my authority all i was asking was whether what i wrote make me look too available? that's all.