I just got back from a week of camp and during that week I met girl that I liked. I'm kinda shy and socially awkward so it took me 3 days to get the balls to talk to her, so when she was sitting alone I approached and started a conversation. The more I talked, the more I liked her. She was pretty hot (hotter than all the other girls) but I liked her personality too. She wasn't as loud or crazy as the other chicks. After talking with her for 2 days, I finally took the plunge and kissed her (I used what my brother taught me, I took her away from all the kids and just kissed her). She reacted by smiling a bit but saying that we won't see each other again, which is probably true because we live about 2 hours away. I think I kinda annoyed her a bit because I have a habit of always looking at the girl I like and looking away once she caught my eye a lot of times throughout the day =/ And now that I'm back home I already miss her and it hasn't even been a day. How can I not be so emotional? And should I have fvcked her before I left (I'm gonna be a freshman)? I want to be able to not have too strong of a bond with a girl and move things faster and bang her (sorry if that sounds weird I'm not very good at writing).
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Falling in love with a girl
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- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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It's not love, it's more like neediness. Scarcity. If you have a lot of food and lose some, you won't miss it; but if you have none and get some, you'll long for it. Stop thinking about her, but actively resist it either. Talk to more girls and go out more. Smile.
Good job on the kiss and approach.
Good job on the kiss and approach.
kissing girls on camp is pretty normal. I know exactly what you're feeling though because I had exactly the same thing, we talked on facebook for months after and I was just a dumb 15 year old so I didn't know it was in vain. When I saw her again it was just awkward. Best thing is to say oh well and move on
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Sorry bro but i gotta say this:
Don't regret it, you probably should have... but would she?
keep up the ec bro its easier than you might think
Like Norwegian said you probably just wanted to fvck her, because she was the "hottest" AND you were getting along. though it could be true that you fell in love with her, I used to think that i was in love when i was horny xD.NorwegianDJ said:
Don't regret it, you probably should have... but would she?
keep up the ec bro its easier than you might think
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Norwegian,when would you say someone knows their inlove?
Serious Q btw.
Serious Q btw.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
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I don't know. I've only experienced a need, however strong it might've been.apocolipto said:
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Probably that she doesn't want to see you again.
LearningSlowly
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Agreed. I was in a 16 month relationship (probably longer if you count times we were hooking up but not dating) and despite all the talk of loving each other, looking back I can see it all came to neediness. That's not a bad thing though. Mutually needy relationships can be very fun and fulfilling. Still, recognize it for what it is and you will be much better off.NorwegianDJ said:
To OP, you kissed her once and that was the entire relationship? Then no, you should not have tried to have sex with her.
It sounds like she wanted to let you down easy, but wasn't interested at all.
Great job going for the kiss! As you kiss more girls, you'll learn to read body language to judge a girl's interest level better.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
LearningSlowly
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Forget her. Start a journal and take this year to become awesome with girls. By the time you see her again, she'll be amazed by how much you've changed.
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And by getting better with girls,you have to have hobbies.Sitting around doing nothing will lead to a life just chasing girls,which you won't get coz you will be boring.
Get interests and hobbies,and then start focusing on gals.
Get interests and hobbies,and then start focusing on gals.