I just got back from a week of camp and during that week I met girl that I liked. I'm kinda shy and socially awkward so it took me 3 days to get the balls to talk to her, so when she was sitting alone I approached and started a conversation. The more I talked, the more I liked her. She was pretty hot (hotter than all the other girls) but I liked her personality too. She wasn't as loud or crazy as the other chicks. After talking with her for 2 days, I finally took the plunge and kissed her (I used what my brother taught me, I took her away from all the kids and just kissed her). She reacted by smiling a bit but saying that we won't see each other again, which is probably true because we live about 2 hours away. I think I kinda annoyed her a bit because I have a habit of always looking at the girl I like and looking away once she caught my eye a lot of times throughout the day =/ And now that I'm back home I already miss her and it hasn't even been a day. How can I not be so emotional? And should I have fvcked her before I left (I'm gonna be a freshman)? I want to be able to not have too strong of a bond with a girl and move things faster and bang her (sorry if that sounds weird I'm not very good at writing).
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Falling in love with a girl
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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It's not love, it's more like neediness. Scarcity. If you have a lot of food and lose some, you won't miss it; but if you have none and get some, you'll long for it. Stop thinking about her, but actively resist it either. Talk to more girls and go out more. Smile.
Good job on the kiss and approach.
Good job on the kiss and approach.
kissing girls on camp is pretty normal. I know exactly what you're feeling though because I had exactly the same thing, we talked on facebook for months after and I was just a dumb 15 year old so I didn't know it was in vain. When I saw her again it was just awkward. Best thing is to say oh well and move on
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Sorry bro but i gotta say this:
Don't regret it, you probably should have... but would she?
keep up the ec bro its easier than you might think
Like Norwegian said you probably just wanted to fvck her, because she was the "hottest" AND you were getting along. though it could be true that you fell in love with her, I used to think that i was in love when i was horny xD.NorwegianDJ said:
Don't regret it, you probably should have... but would she?
keep up the ec bro its easier than you might think
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Norwegian,when would you say someone knows their inlove?
Serious Q btw.
Serious Q btw.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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I don't know. I've only experienced a need, however strong it might've been.apocolipto said:
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Probably that she doesn't want to see you again.
LearningSlowly
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Agreed. I was in a 16 month relationship (probably longer if you count times we were hooking up but not dating) and despite all the talk of loving each other, looking back I can see it all came to neediness. That's not a bad thing though. Mutually needy relationships can be very fun and fulfilling. Still, recognize it for what it is and you will be much better off.NorwegianDJ said:
To OP, you kissed her once and that was the entire relationship? Then no, you should not have tried to have sex with her.
It sounds like she wanted to let you down easy, but wasn't interested at all.
Great job going for the kiss! As you kiss more girls, you'll learn to read body language to judge a girl's interest level better.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
LearningSlowly
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Forget her. Start a journal and take this year to become awesome with girls. By the time you see her again, she'll be amazed by how much you've changed.
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And by getting better with girls,you have to have hobbies.Sitting around doing nothing will lead to a life just chasing girls,which you won't get coz you will be boring.
Get interests and hobbies,and then start focusing on gals.
Get interests and hobbies,and then start focusing on gals.