"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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scrouds

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They hurt, especially if there was good IOIs and everything. I'm feeling kind of hurt and down about it, but I guess its just something I need to toughen up to.

Oh well.

I think I built this up in my head for a while. I was keeping busy for a few days with different things, meant to call her, but put it off, so I was thinking about it for a few days. So bigger let down then I was expecting.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You always say let me call you now to make sure I got it right.

Sometimes when I meet a real sleaze I hand out my exs number who was more interested in getting my mate pauls c0ck up his bum, n thought I wouldn't find out.
 
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To the OP

First off, you are taking action - you are trying to get girls' numbers.

That is to be commended

Rejection hurts - but you get used to it. There is an element of randomness and besides, you are not every girl's type and vice-versa, not every girl is your style.

But think of this as a *test* of your masculinity - can you continue to believe in your high value despite the fact that a girl just rejected you? Think long and hard about that.

I remember once I had an awesome conversation with this girl, and she really liked me, I could see it in her eyes. I got her number. I called her and set up an outing, she said yes. Then she bails on me at the last minute.

I was shocked, then very annoyed, that definitely stung.

In the end, I still love being a man even though you have to deal with rejections - you get to make moves on girls - whereas girls just have to sit there and wait and hope a guy makes a move on them.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I used to get those at the beginning of my game until I device a strategy to have fake-number free, haha. You'd know if a girl/woman gives a fake number. The way to know is she will ensure that you have the correct number by repeating the number one digit at a time after giving it to you, yes including the area code.
If you're not sure on the authenticity of the number, simply say "let me call you so you have my number as well." Don't wait for her to respond. If it is a fake number, she'll try to give you some damn excuse. Just tell her "good bye." and leave.
 
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Ive never gotten a fake number in my life.


The way you avoid getting fake numbers is tell her to take out her phone and call your number right then and there...
 
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J Roc said:
Ive never gotten a fake number in my life.


The way you avoid getting fake numbers is tell her to take out her phone and call your number right then and there...
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Exactly. :up: I do this all the time, it never fails (I can also call the number she is telling me and I'll see if her phone rings or not).
 
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scrouds said:
They hurt, especially if there was good IOIs and everything. I'm feeling kind of hurt and down about it, but I guess its just something I need to toughen up to.

Oh well.

I think I built this up in my head for a while. I was keeping busy for a few days with different things, meant to call her, but put it off, so I was thinking about it for a few days. So bigger let down then I was expecting.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I like this checking out the number stuff. I know i've grabbed a chick's phone before and dialed up my number, that worked good. I have a feeling, like Trader's experience, that she would have flaked not committed if i got the right number anyways.

Its just hard, there were some good signs she was really in to me, so i guess it caught me by surprise. Guess you never really know. Trader, I can continue. I didn't take this as an ego blow, i was more just pissed. Stung was/is totally the right word to describe it.

One of the bigger positives here is the idea of spinning plates. So far I'm spinning one, and working on adding at least a second. Its a totally different dynamic, and makes rejection easier, since if you want some, you can go get it.
 
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J Roc said:
Ive never gotten a fake number in my life.


The way you avoid getting fake numbers is tell her to take out her phone and call your number right then and there...
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And that's all there is to it! Case closed!:up: ;)
 
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A real number that does not lead anywhere is just as bad, maybe worse, than a fake number. At least you know from the get-go she's not interested rather than getting strung along over the phone or on dates.

I know it sucks to get rejected/blown-off but trust me it happens to you enough times eventually you get used to it
 
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