How do you men fake it till you make it without lying to yourselves? Or is your truth in habitually lying to yourself? Does the truth come into fruition for you after you've supposedly made it and how would you know you even made it after faking it for so long?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Fake it till you make it?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
guru1000
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What came first, the chicken or the egg?
The egg came first. It begins with the mental paradigm of desiring to be the biggest troll in SoSuave history. You must wake up desiring it and go to sleep desiring it. You must really want it.
At first, you visit a random forum, and throw a troll post here, a troll post there.
Next, you start visiting various forums with intermittent troll posts and a few regular posts in between.
Next, you must get at least one ban from one forum. This is the hard part, the intermediate level ... a milestone if you will.
Then, at the advanced level, you must get banned at every forum at least one time.
Soon the paradigm comes alive, and you have created 129 handles in each forum, all banned, and your dream has finally manifested! Alas ... you have finally made it. Then you meet a Guru who stands you up at an oyster bar.
The egg came first. It begins with the mental paradigm of desiring to be the biggest troll in SoSuave history. You must wake up desiring it and go to sleep desiring it. You must really want it.
At first, you visit a random forum, and throw a troll post here, a troll post there.
Next, you start visiting various forums with intermittent troll posts and a few regular posts in between.
Next, you must get at least one ban from one forum. This is the hard part, the intermediate level ... a milestone if you will.
Then, at the advanced level, you must get banned at every forum at least one time.
Soon the paradigm comes alive, and you have created 129 handles in each forum, all banned, and your dream has finally manifested! Alas ... you have finally made it. Then you meet a Guru who stands you up at an oyster bar.
wifehunter
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It's crap philosophy.
redskinsfan92
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It's more about altering your behavior so that you develop that mindset. Training the subconscious.
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Or don’t fake anything. Forget about confidence. Focus on improving your competence. Accept that you suck. But realize that, with more experience, you can gradually improve and suck a bit less lol.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
wifehunter
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Nailed it!
Murk
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I faked confidence before I became it. You just need to eventually make it while you fake it. Believe in yourself and you can definitely fake it. Confidence is definitely something you can fake while you make. "Habitually lying" is way too deep, it should be lightwork, if you are deep diving into psyche, you need more work on inner game, you as a person.
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Agreed. I have never understood, and even now I can't say I understand, exactly why "confidence" is supposed to be such a big deal with women. But since I was a kid, they've always said "Be confident", so I've always faked it, because I knew I was supposed to be confident. To be honest, I don't think women can tell the difference between genuine confidence and a hole in the ground. A lot of swagger is really just disguised insecurity.
There was a video on YouTube about confidence, can't be bothered to find it. But there was a girl on there who used the word "courage" instead of confidence, and I thought that made a lot more sense. She appreciated that a guy had the "courage" to approach her, and that increased her attraction to him. You can have courage without being confident. "Bold action" is also something that women appreciate.