Fake it till you make it?

[JonnyD123]

Was going on 5 days NC with an ex that broke things off. I saw it coming, got prepared, and basically just let her do it. As much as it hurt I knew it was for the best, and I assumed if she wanted to reach out she would.

Well, we ran into each other yesterday unexpectedly. Both of us were caught off guard. There were definitely still some feelings involved but for the most part I kept it light and cordial, and cracked some jokes. She asked how I was doing and I said good. She said she hadn't been sleeping.

Later that night sure enough I get a text from her saying "Have you really been doing good?" I said "Yes, hope you are as well."

Woke up in the morning to notice she had blocked me on all social media, and changed the PW to a Spotify account we had shared.

I knew her reaching out was her way of possibly trying to reconcile things, but I was wanting something more yhsn that BS question.

So, my question is, is "faking" it really the best route to go here? I know that sympathy isn't attractive, but I feel like sh*t mainly because I feel like I'm lying to myself. Thoughts?

 

[resilient]

"Faking" is a weird word to describe the moving on phase. Point is, you've shifted your focus back on you. You said you saw it coming, got prepared and I assumed let her do the dumping. You kept the surprise interaction light and funny, which is good... like a gentleman. You handled that well.

She reached out to you in text to confirm that she did the right thing by walking away and to ease her consciousness. Again, you answered plainly, didn't get emotional or give her any ammunition to fire back. Good. Oddly, it was her actions in blocking you on social media and changing her spotify that revealed her true concern for your well-being.

In any case, if you're moving on with your life, stop checking her social media and just start up your own individual spotify account. That's small stuff.

Most of your OP was about her and how you've reacted in moving on. You won't have to "fake" moving forward to anyone. Just have fun, be authentic to yourself, and enjoy the life you have and what you want out of it moving forward.

 

[JonnyD123]

"Faking" is a weird word to describe the moving on phase. Point is, you've shifted your focus back on you. You said you saw it coming, got prepared and I assumed let her do the dumping. You kept the surprise interaction light and funny, which is good... like a gentleman. You handled that well.

She reached out to you in text to confirm that she did the right thing by walking away and to ease her consciousness. Again, you answered plainly, didn't get emotional or give her any ammunition to fire back. Good. Oddly, it was her actions in blocking you on social media and changing her spotify that revealed her true concern for your well-being.

In any case, if you're moving on with your life, stop checking her social media and just start up your own individual spotify account. That's small stuff.

Most of your OP was about her and how you've reacted in moving on. You won't have to "fake" moving forward to anyone. Just have fun, be authentic to yourself, and enjoy the life you have and what you want out of it moving forward.

The whole social media thing is more for her wellbeing. She's told me before it's helped her move on with past exes. Great post all around though.