Fake Friends

[cabaceira]

How do you guys deal with fake friends?
I´m in a place in my life where i am reading a lot of books and gaining a lot of knowdlege, some of the knowledge was eye opening for me.
I can now see that my " friends " are all kinda fake, and i dont really relate to them anymore.
Also they are blue pilled people and all of them beta AF.
My real question is. How many REAL friends u should have in your life.
Is the red pill life lonely ? Or it is just my impression?
Love this forum , thank you guys for your attention

 

[Mike32ct]

Real friends? One or two.

The rest are all acquaintances at best.

 

[Romanemp22]

I don't have real friends as you say. I believe that doesn't exist in today's world because most people that hang out together is because of some benefit.

 

[cabaceira]

Real friends? One or two.

The rest are all acquaintances at best.

Thank you G

 

[cabaceira]

I don't have real friends as you say. I believe that doesn't exist in today's world because most people that hang out together is because of some benefit.

Damn , that is some harsh truth

 

[KindredSpiritzz]

I view real friends as people i know that will drop everything and come over if i need help with something. Those i can count on one hand with fingers left over. That doesnt mean you shouldnt have lesser friends in your life, they all serve a purpose of one sort or another but you keep close the ones you can count on and let them know they can count on you too

 

[Romanemp22]

Damn , that is some harsh truth

I don't want to spoil something for you, but it's just how I view things because I can read off people very well and because I'm not naive I don't have many friends, and no best friends thing.

 

[Black Widow Void]

Although I do facebook, I 'prune' my friends list every year.

Personally, my rule is to never expect more from others than you are willing to provide. But also... never accept less from friends than you are wiling to provide.

Most people are more interested in quantity over quality. I have about five "middle of the night flat tire friends." This means that if I was in a bind, they'd be there just as I, for them.

Acquaintances aren't bad to have, but once you get to know them, they either get promoted or demoted.

 

[Kotaix]

It's natural for most friends to drop out of your life as you age. I doubt people have more than 5-10 really good friends at any given point in time. But only you can answer how many friends you should really have, there is no "right" answer.

The red pill life becomes lonely because you set yourself aside from the blue pilled people. I've been thru this phase myself, and in hindsight I think it's a mistake. You are not better than anyone because you've seen reality. Part of truly accepting reality as it is means accepting that others can have different opinions than you and still be really good people.

Most of all, do not talk about the red pill. When someone says something blue-pilled, just keep quiet and let them live in their delusion.

 

[Mike32ct]

I would avoid pill theories with friends. It doesn’t really matter for the purposes of a friendship.

Honestly, some blue pill guys are good people even if we disagree on some stuff.

 

[Çharismo]

You know the interesting thing is that since the invention of social media most people have become very delusional about there own lives. When I first got Facebook I ended up with a 1000 something “friend’s” and tried reaching out to a lot of those “friends” to no avail. They would rather have full blown conversations on social media, update there statuses, upload pictures, comment ... etc rather than pick up the phone and form some sort of a real connection in real life. That’s just how things are nowadays.

Society has become so addicted to social media that a lot of people are losing touch with reality and don’t even have real conversations anymore. Believe it or not all these big name corporations including the companies that run social media have the best minds working on how they can get you addicted to there products including smartphones, social media, food, porn, sugar, Netflix, news, drugs, TV...etc and for the masses it’s working. Most people can’t put down these phones for even a minute to talk to a person in real life. It’s become just a big game for these corporations and it’s working. A lot of people are disconnected from each other and even themselves. They are sleep walking/drifting through life and are deeply stuck in the Matrix. Unplugging them or deprogramming them is a thankless job and you will be ostracized and excluded.

For me personally I’m constantly working to better and elevate my thinking and become a better man not just on the outside but on the inside as well and most people would rather not do that. Actually most people don’t do that. I can connect with a lot of people but keeping and making friends has always been difficult for me because of my personality which tends to intimidate people.

However, what I have done is associate with a lot of people. Even in high school I knew damn near everybody but was never part of a group. Same thing happened in college and even at some of the jobs I’ve worked. If you become too much of a threat most people are not gonna want you around which is a good thing because it eliminates most people and you only associate with high caliber people that are secure in themselves.

Again I’m not looking down on anyone or anybody just presenting things for what they are. Don’t take any of this personally that’s just the way things are but as long as you are doing your best to reach out and try to make friends ...slowly but surely the right people will come into your life. As for everything else just take in stride.

Or maybe I’m the crazy one.

 

[DreamAgain]

There's not much too it, you just slow fade until contact ceases and then you aren't even considered acquaintances anymore.

I struggled with this idea for a bit. Is it better to keep in contact with these "fake friends" for the sake of having contacts? For social proof?

It's a difficult question, I still don't know.

 

[darksprezzatura]

Eventually you will forms a new circle.
Be around people who genuinely bring positive things in your life but also keep some enemies close. But be the wiser

Can't emphasise this enough.

I believe in the philosophy of taking what's useful and discarding the useless.

 

[r4zorsharp]

I have to some extent. But the thing is man, to a larger extent, I had some good friends who care about me but people are fickle. When you don't feel good about yourself , you often act different around others.. thus you may be pushing your friends away without realizing it. That happened to me, but then I started pushing them away knowingly.. It was at a time I was really feeling guilty about a lot and ashamed that I wasn't where I wanted to be in life.

We move from people to people, as someone mentioned. We go from circle to circle sometimes to find the right friends for us. Many people though you can go a while without talking with them and they don't forget you or think of you as less than a friend.. and thats just because they realize that the waves of life take us in different places

 

[Lordeterra]

How do you guys deal with fake friends?
I´m in a place in my life where i am reading a lot of books and gaining a lot of knowdlege, some of the knowledge was eye opening for me.
I can now see that my " friends " are all kinda fake, and i dont really relate to them anymore.
Also they are blue pilled people and all of them beta AF.
My real question is. How many REAL friends u should have in your life.
Is the red pill life lonely ? Or it is just my impression?
Love this forum , thank you guys for your attention

How old are you?

 

[Georgepithyou]

Very few people you meet in life would be genuine, I don't really have anyone I consider true friends but I have tons of work buddies and acquaintances.

 

[Lordeterra]

I would avoid pill theories with friends. It doesn’t really matter for the purposes of a friendship.

Honestly, some blue pill guys are good people even if we disagree on some stuff.

I've found most blue pill or to be either jealous betas or very passive and boring.

 

[sangheilios]

@cabaceira

When I was in my teens through just a few years ago I literally had no friends outside of family members. One of the things at the time I felt, which I now know is incorrect, is that people need to be real friends that you share strong bonds with and not have superficial people in your life. The issue with this thought pattern is that it is too intense for most people, especially when you aren't really that close to begin with, and it freaks them out. Strong friendships take years to develop and I personally feel that these aren't all that common. Through my observations, it seems that people kind of come and go into each other's lives, mostly due to circumstance and just various life priorities changing, etc.

Now, when it comes to lesser tier friends I do think they have a place in your life. These are the people you hang out with and can enjoy their company but it's not something to the degree where you are there for each other, talk about deeper and more personal issues, etc. Think about the guy you play ultimate frisbee with every weekend, gym buddy, etc. These people still provide value to your life and this is typically where deeper friendships can possibly emerge from.

Now, when it comes to "fake" friends, these can actually be tough to pick up on. More often than not they started as lower tiered friends and you enjoy each other's company but there's usually some sort of motive as to why they spend time with you. Maybe they just want someone to go out with to the bars every weekend, maybe they just don't want to be alone, etc. This is one of the reasons why you shouldn't talk about money, status, job positions, etc. because when people find this out they will become friendly towards you but not because they like you but because they want something out of you. I feel like most people do this to some degree, there is always a more selfish motive for everything they do, but not necessarily to the point where the whole thing is fraudulent. Also, some people operate on a very fake and superficial level like this, so naturally all of the people in their life will fall on this same wavelength. Think about the douchebag who flaunts wealth and the bimbo gold digger he's in a relationship with.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

We are 2 days away from 2021 bro, real friends don’t exist anymore. Most women are attention whøres seeking social validation while most men are desperate simps who’ll throw you under the bus for a piece of sloppy seconds of that tainted puss. Fact is, most people suck, and I think we can all agree on that.

Do I have acquaintances? Sure. Do I have real friends though? No. They say you know who your real friends are if they’ll help you move or if they’ll pick you up from the airport. The closest thing I have to that is my dad, and that’s it. Some people don’t even have that.

 

[Rainman4707]

Yeah, i agree on the real friends will be there for you in the tough times.

You meet somebody. Spend time with them. Friendship develops, the more you spend time with a person. The more you get to know a person. The more similar you are to that person the more you will have a better friendship. Similar beliefs, interests. If you're both honest and look out for each other, that helps too. Thats real friends.

There will be friends you wont match with as much. Maybe you find them sly. They have other good traits, but maybe one bad trait.

Dont judge people to harshly though as you yourself are not perfect.