"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Facing Cancer and Death: Finding the Courage to Sarge!

LIME!

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Hi, everyone. I am a long time lurker. Like most of you, I want to make a change in my life, and getting hot babes are a part of it.

I was recently motivated to action. A few months ago, I had stage 4, verge-of-death lymphoma. I was in constant pain and couldn't walk. Everyone expected me to die within weeks. Somehow, things like whether girl X likes me or not or whether I should ask out such and such didn't matter as much.

When the pain abated (i.e. when the morphine hit) I was left only with regrets. Tons of girls that liked me but I was too chicken to ask out. I also lost many opportunities in other facets of my life. I faced my own death with much more courage than I've faced girls. We're weird like that. Everyone should search for that resolve; we all have it. It took cancer for me to find it.

Now I'm in remission, one more chemo session to go. I have recovered faster than everyone's expectations. Not only can I walk, but I'm excercising regularly and am getting strong. I'm reclaiming my body and it feels great.

Cliche, but now I want to live my life to the fullest. I will be here from time to time to post stupid questions and give uninformed ideas, but also to post success stories and track my progress. Wish me luck! Not that I need it...
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You go, girl!

:D

Glad to hear you're joining us - we need more people like you. Determined chaps. People who we can all use as an example. "Hey! He did it! I can too!"

Welcome aboard.
 

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awe-inspiring to say the least. I take my hat off to you sir. Those who have looked into the radiant abyss, and clawed their way back have known the dying man's remorse and the young man's resolve all at once. You have had a near life experience, my friend. The world prostrates itself before you and your new found insight. You are man incarnate! You are the angel-demon whom God and Satan smiled upon in the beginning of days, when the world was naive and the finding was the taking. I envy you as much as it is possible to envy someone, and more. All the luck to you.
 

LIME!

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This is going to be my official "bootcamp" thread where I'll post my progress. Even just months later, I sometimes have to be reminded of what I faced and how trivial girls are in comparison.

Thanks guys, for your support. I'm sarging on Friday. Even if I fail spectacularly, I'll tell you what happened and what I learned.

LedRambo, I envy your writing! Wow...
 

smooth'n'saucy

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i luv this inspirational stuff

the strength of the human mind is infinte, most people refuse to believe this, but you, my friend, confronted death straight in the eyes---you, like everyone else has the power to achieve anything, difference is, u know it an you've done it!! :up:

U GOT COJONES MAN!

You'll go far no doubt buddy
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yes, smooth, we ALL have the resolve to get what we want. I almost died finding it, but I had it all along.

I'm not special or anything. Just an rAFC who happened to have cancer. Thanks for getting the point of my post.
 

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This could be golden with the women. "We have to make the most of today... I might not be here tomorrow." You can be like the soldier about to go away to war.
 

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Congrats on having a postive attitude. This will keep you alive long after the chemo has done its work.

I wouldnt try to play up the "poor me" aspect of all this though. Talk about the positive effects of facing death...how your perspective is so different and you have finally learned how to live for a change.

*****es don't fukk dudes who feel sorry for themselves
 

muttley

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your a fighter bro keep it up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! well done!!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Heck if you can do it so can I, what have I got to complain about?

See you in the field.
 

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good luck man.
 

LIME!

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I've been thinking about the "cancer" angle. At the very least it gets attention. I don't know about initial meetings cause I'm supposed to keep everything light and funny, but during a later date I'll try it! Thanks.

It wasn't all bad. Besides the motivation to live, cancer did two things for me. One, I lost a lot of weight -- 70 pounds in a month. Two, I found out I look badazz bald. Now I shave my head.

Chin up, spider. I'm sure most of us would agree that rejection doesn't hurt that much. Go find out!
 

LIME!

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First approach down, many more to go! She was hot, but married.

Two other prospects identified, but it was inconvenient to approach.

This is fun.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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