"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Facial Aesthetics Vs Physical Confidence

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I considered putting this in the Health and Fitness forum however I think this is more of a vanity issue..

For a long time I have wanted to do some sort of martial art, something useful in real life and also something where I could mix with other men and take a few hits, and give a few back myself. Kickboxing, Boxing and Brazilian Jujitsu are what have always appealed to me, probably because I enjoyed watching mma, one of the few sports that I can actually watch and be interested in. I guess I also hold value in being able to handle yourself in an altercation, I think this is important as a man and something that is very primal within us that nowadays is very much missing in the average male.

The problem I have is that I don't want to mess up my face, or my joints. I'm 34 now, I was good looking when I was younger, not as much now as I'm getting older however, still good looking, and I've relied heavily, unfortunately, on my 'facial aesthetics' over the years to get women.

I also don't want to be limping around during my work week, or struggling to type because my hands are screwed from grappling and punching, or hitting 60 and being riddled with joint pain..

So my question I guess is, for anyone who does mma, what are the chances of me training 3 to 4 times a week and coming out with cauliflower ears, broken nose, weathered skin and injuries after a year training? Will this inevitably happen? And if it does happen is it worth the trade off?

Also how have you found women react to cauliflower ears etc, is it a turn off?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I go to a kickboxing gym 4x a week where I hit the bags and do HIIT workouts for 30 minutes. In between exercises, I'll be prompted to spar with a trainer. I do punches, jabs, uppercuts against his gloves. We never exchange hits at the head.

Do you have to go full mma for training? Maybe consider scaling that back if you're worried about cauliflower ears.
 

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I go to a kickboxing gym 4x a week where I hit the bags and do HIIT workouts for 30 minutes. In between exercises, I'll be prompted to spar with a trainer. I do punches, jabs, uppercuts against his gloves. We never exchange hits at the head.

Do you have to go full mma for training? Maybe consider scaling that back if you're worried about cauliflower ears.
I just think brawling with someone once or twice a week would completely change a person and how they conduct themselves in everyday life. We are programmed to do this but we dont as it's not needed since we left are tribal roots.. growing up boys would always be play fighting, this was important in tribal times as it made way for the transformation into real fighting. Kids still play fight today, but we never go on to having to defend ourselves physically because of the civilised society .

I just wonder if men are missing a trick by not satisfying this primal urge.
 

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Damage to the ears is bound to happen if u r sparing often, went through it twice, both in a fight, sought traditional treatment for it, there's still some visible scaring and a misshapen ear at the left side.

Women did ask me abt it, always does, they tend to notice it, at least to me it doesn't effect them in a way I thought it would, there would be a cringe, then pity then some sort of admiration that's hard to explain.

I wouldn't be worried abt any facial injuries thats pertinent to women favoring you or not.

The scars on my body was the hardest to explain away imo and I tend to ignore any questions from women regarding that. Try not 2 get any on the body, face would be fine.
 

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Taking a interest in boxing, don't they usually wear head gear in sparring?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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