You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I'm the same way. The girl I'm dating loves that I don't have a facebook, it does indeed add alot of mystery. It gives me a reason for her to come over and "look at my pictures".WayOfTheDragon said:This was a good video. Personally, I'm not, and have never been on Facebook. I'm 25 and the only person I know (from being told by others) that's not on the website.
I never tell people I'm not on Facebook, but when they find out, it adds a real mystery to me. It's seems as if some girls eyes light up when they ask and I say no, especially sense I'm an outgoing and social person.
Give it a shot and drop the site. I swear you can use it to your advantage.
BINGO. This is what I was looking for! +1 repDesert Fox said:I'm in college and don't have a facebook. Impossible you say? No, I just understand stuff on the internet is written in ink. And if it's tied to your name, well good luck with that.
And I agree with the mystery thing, although when girls ask for my facebook I say, "don't have one, give me your number instead and maybe we'll hang out sometime." Boom done. Easy. Of course, I never save their number because I'm not interested at all 90% of the time.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I also don't like how people loosely throw around the word 'addiction,' which is properly defined as the inability to stop a behavior in spite of pervasive negative consequences, and I'm skeptical Internet addiction even exists. Heavy usage is not the same thing as addiction. What happens to most people when the power goes out, cell phone receptivity drops, or when someone is invited to a dinner?—why, they go out and socialize. Not everyone is highly sociable, either. It's a difference in personality. They certainly might benefit from putting down their smartphones and force themselves to be more engaging, but it's not for you to ride on some righteous high horse and claim they have an 'addiction'.Baroness Susan Greenfield has been spouting off some bad neuroscience, I'm afraid. She's on an anti-social-networking-software, anti-computer-games, anti-computer crusade that sounds a bit familiar — it's just like the anti-TV tirades I've heard for 40-some years — and a little bit new — computers are bad because they are "changing the workings of the brain". Ooooh.
But to put that in perspective, the brain is a plastic organ that is supposed to rewire itself in response to experience. It's what they do. The alternative is to have a fixed reaction pattern that doesn't improve itself, which would be far worse. Greenfield is throwing around neuroscientific jargon to scare people.
So yes, using computers all the time and chatting in the comments sections of weird web sites will modify the circuitry of the brain and have consequences that will affect the way you think. Maybe I should put a disclaimer on the text boxes on this site. However, there are events that will scramble your brains even more: for example, falling in love. I don't want to imagine the frantic rewiring that has to go on inside your head in response to that, or the way it can change the way you see the entire rest of the world, for good or bad, for the whole of your life... Will Baroness Greenfield give up her book-writin', lecturin' ways to fire-harden a pointy stick, don a burlap bag, and dedicate her life to hunting rabbits?
Humor me. What is the full peril of their situation?It destroys lives and the addicted does not realize the full peril of their situation.
That's the way I feel. If I had to rap up Facebook in word: VANITY.TyTe`EyEz said:Facebook leads to feelings of jealousy and vanity - neither of which is healthy.
This is true for SOME but this whole post is speaking for the masses...again. It was the same way with Myspace (remember that?) but face book is on a much larger scale. Social networking is more than just an ego trip. I keep touch with my family members, some of whom live over seas, most of whom live at least across the country from me. It's nice to see pictures of my little cousins as they enter college and being able to talk to view video of my grand parents in their golden years all in the same place.TyTe`EyEz said:Facebook leads to feelings of jealousy and vanity - neither is healthy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
PRMoon said:This is true for SOME but this whole post is speaking for the masses...again. It was the same way with Myspace (remember that?) but face book is on a much larger scale. Social networking is more than just an ego trip. I keep touch with my family members, some of whom live over seas, most of whom live at least across the country from me. It's nice to see pictures of my little cousins as they enter college and being able to talk to view video of my grand parents in their golden years all in the same place.
But forget about all that. Social media is gaining a bigger foot hole in the work place. If any of you have any interest in some form of marketing, it's almost essential for you to have involvement in some form of social media. The vice president of marketing for the company I work for called face book a "living resume" because it displays how well you interact with the masses.
Yes if you use facebook for the sole purpose of pretending you have friends then you likely have some problems. But like anything else, it's all a matter of what you do with the equipment and time you're offered that makes you a productive person or leaves you a waste of space.
Yes. Maybe I'm one of the few who look at other people's profiles and compare myself to them. Maybe I'm in the minority when I get jealous of xxxx for making more money than me; for having a hotter girl than me; for attending a better school than me. Yeah fvcking right. This is what EVERYBODY on Facebook does. Nobody is immune to feelings of jealousy and vanity. Maybe you, but that's it.PRMoon said:This is true for SOME