"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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R1ch4rd

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While you should intiate. If your trying to build attraction and they invest in you a bit then they are going to talk to you. But you cant have a quikc bit of small talk online then ravishing convo in rea life, unless you initate it.
 

kraytkiller

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All the time. Sometimes my fault, sometimes theirs.

With girls, they usually are the ones to avoid you after adding them and talking to them, if they're the normal kind, and not the social/cool kind. All you have to do with them though is go up to them and talk to them first. Never been rejected doing this... Though I don't know how well it would go if your conversation went badly.
 

S.Y.L

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I have screwed up so many times in the past like this, I will be awesome at talking to girls online, but I was too scared to talk to them in person, and they lose interest because of this, and of my lack to make a move.

Yeah, not a good idea.
 
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