"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Facebook experiment, step by step!

Shivastorm_88

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So I found an extremely hot girl on facebook (IMO) that's friend with a girl that I used to work with and that is also on my facebook (if anyone recall I made a post about how to approach). I found a website explaining how to do facebook approaches and decided to give it a shot. I shall post it step by step (as in message by message) to do a field report - or should I say, a facebook report (yea, lame, I know :D)

Obviously the names will be changed for privacy purpose.

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Oh no, not another Harry Potter lover! That's so nerdy! Hahah, I love it!

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lmaoo its not my fault i was hooked from the young age of 10!!
do i know you?



Now I'll only answer her tomorrow as to show that im not needy and blablablah. Everytime I post something and she answers I'll post it here, until either I get a date with her, or she blows me off :whistle:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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did u message her randomly and say that? did her pf pic have something harry potter related? did u comment on a mutual photo?

if you can provide more details we can understand how your approach came about. unless it was literally a message from the blue.
 

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Yea you're right, I'll give more details. So it's a message I sent via Facebook Inbox, I never ever talked to her before, neither on Facebook, Internet, phone or face to face so it's really a message out of the blue. Lastly, the Harry Potter thing is taken from her profile

I'm not used to making FR or whatever so if you got any questions feel free to ask, but now I go to work!
 

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You should also message the girl you used to work with in similar light trivial conversation. X will ask that girl about you, and if you are messaging both, then X won't be able to tell if you are hitting on her or not. That is key. Just like in real life, act like you don't notice she's hot. Make her have to guess about your intentions.

I have used myspace instead of facebook, but in similar fashion to what you are doing. I posted a lot to this thread:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=128126

Good luck.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Shivastorm_88

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Bible_Belt said:
You should also message the girl you used to work with in similar light trivial conversation. X will ask that girl about you, and if you are messaging both, then X won't be able to tell if you are hitting on her or not. That is key. Just like in real life, act like you don't notice she's hot. Make her have to guess about your intentions.

I have used myspace instead of facebook, but in similar fashion to what you are doing. I posted a lot to this thread:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=128126

Good luck.
thanks that's actually a very good idea I guess I could write her as well. Although the ex-collegue I wrote her a few times on her wall (with her writing back I aint that loser! hahah) so I guess I could go at it again tomorrow when I'll write to X again


oh and: my next post will probably be something in the lines of: hahah no excuse! you had so much time to break free of it's clutch but you didn't! heheh! You seem to have really good taste in TV shows (family guy rocks!) What's the funniest family guy episode you ever saw?

Or actually I might ask: ... You seem to have really good taste in TV shows (family guy rocks!) If you could, which family guy character would you be?

The second one shows more originality, it's too bland to ask what the favorite episode is IMO

I don't have much material to play with in her profile, so... :/ anyways, opinions?
 

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here is something powerful:

1. Stop banter.

2. Throw a random cold read at her (link it to her facial features, or whateevr you can find on her photo collection)

3. Let her respond, doesn't matter what she says, send this message - "You know what, I've noticed good looking girls don't usually have anything interesting going for them. Tell me 3 interesting things about you".

4. Show your interest now but keep her reeled in (don't give away all your intent)

5. Close/fix a date.
 
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